What should I do about my angry, super-jealous, depressed boyfriend?

ok. well me and my boyfriend fersure are in love and have been dating over a year. (I know people don’t believe in that sorta relationship and would call me dumb but im usually one of those people so im pretty sure I know what im talking about) but so we have our problems also…we both get REALLY jealous. like it’s to where I see him talking to any other girl and my heart sinks even tho I know he won’t ever do anything with a fat ugly chick. but he is ten times worse. he has issues with depression and smokes weed and is bipolar which contribute to his reaction when III talk to any other guy: he gets sad, shuts down into his own little world, and ignores me for awhile. to others he talks to them like he’s angry and so when he finally DOES talk to me he expresses it as anger too. he says he’s sorry he over reacts but he cares so much. I don’t know how to have a life and guys friends (which I have a lot of) without causing all of this pain and stress on him! will his anger get worse over time so that if we ever get married it will just be arguing? how can I avoid hurting him? and more importantly is it worth it to stay with a guy with so many problems like that without him getting help??? AHHH! I don’t know :(

Answer #1

your personalities and characters are just not meant to be together, sorry.

Answer #2

Ok I have been close to someone exactly like that… He ended up getting so mAd at me one day that he beat me with a pool table stick and broke a few ribs. I would not stay in that relationship. Please don’t for your own safety. If you need any more advice or just want to talk please message me.

Answer #3

Maybe your just not good for eachother. Have you spoke to him about it? It might help If you can’t find a solution, ask him if a break might help. You talk about marrying the guy then contimplate breaking up with him … ?

Answer #4

send hi to rehab or a therapist haha diz guy has a lot of issues so it best to let him know how you feel bout actions maybe take a break for a while till he starts to man up and become a better person just try it and wait and see

Answer #5

IN REGARDS TO YOUR ANSWERS: well he doesn’t get violent. he’s still sweet all he does is yell. so I doubt it’ll b dangerous to stay at least not from any kind of violence. not yet anyway. but that’s why I asked…bc I’ve seen people in my life go thru that and am very independent and sill not stand for that if it’s my life. dead serious. and yes I’ve spoke to him about breaking up or taking a break and he’s admitted we are two different people but he sed he loves me and doesn’t wna let me go which is why he outs all the negatives:so we can fix them. so HE’S willing. but it’s sad that it’s me that is doubting if it’s worth it. I want to be there through all of his problems but I have my own ya know? it sounds selfish but can two screwed up people really be together?

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