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How can I keep a good relationship with him away?

ok so me and my boyfriend have been togather for a while but 2 months ago he went to NY but we talk everyday on the phone, but I’m scared because I don’t know how to keep a long relationship, I don’t know if I should control him or if he should, I don’t know how to make him feel good I don’t know how to make him laugh I need help please tel me what are some things I can do that I don’t know what to do now and how do I keep myself strong while I talk to him on da phone and should I be nice to him or mean, please help me. thx

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Answer #1

First of all never be mean to anyone it doesn’t work it only makes others hate you. As for controlling him, what makes you think you can control him? And why would you want to control anyone? You need to control yourself for when you do anything is possible including getting him to fall madly in love for you. He’s in New York, there’s nothing you can do about that; remain calm and let him reach out for you and when he does, listen to him. Don’t judge, don’t brag, don’t complain, and don’t say “When am I going to see you, why don’t you talk to me more, why, why, why? It keeps guys away. Men need nurturing and understanding and when they get that they will respond and provide you with what ever your hearts desire. It’s a simple thing but often hard to follow. Can you follow it?

Answer #2

I can thx so much but the thing is how do I keep it cool with him be wants me to keep callng him because he says he misses me even when we are on da phone but the reason why I wanna control him is because he somehow tells me things that I have to follow if I don’t he will get a little mad

Answer #3

This sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. You dont know how to act around him, you dont feel like you can be yourself, and you seem intimidated and nervous about him. Thats great he wants you to call him, but ‘things that I have to follow if I don’t he will get a little mad’. What kind of things? Thats not how relationships work. If you want to call him - call him. If you dont want to - tell him you were just busy. Be real and be yourself. If he gets ‘a little mad’ which sounds like its more than that…then guess what - there are guys that you can totally be yourself around and wont get mad. We do not ‘own’ our mates and it is not fair to ‘control’ anyone!

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