Violent Dad!

it sounds like as soon as your dad could ‘bail’ he did…he may feel he has lost some part of his youth, after all, women are primary carers to children (no tats not a ‘all dads are poop’ it’s a, normaly the children are the womens responsibility and the income is the dads, in a lot of cases)

but your dad has tasted freedom, or at least what he thinks is freedom, and he likes it a little too much! as I say rockchick, you, at this moment in your life, are going to have to look out for you…your dad may drink until he dies, or he may give up..either way, you won’t have much influence over him right now.

children, in general, are so practical, if it’s bad for you, don’t do it…unfortuently it’s a qualty we seem to loose as we grow up…

you and your brother are the only ones who matter right now. spea to your citizens advice bureu (or the USA equivalent) and get some legal advice of where it stands where you are…I just feel sorry for you two, having independence thrust upon you…I could moan about your dad for ages, but it won’t achieve anything!

so get some legal advice, and you and your brother are now ‘your family’…one day your dad will realise what a loss you two are to him, I just hope it’s not too late… x x x

ok, I am all for supporting parents, or anyone for that matter that has a drink problem. however, when the parent becomes abusive I think advanced measures should be made…

if you are not able to talk to your dad, or you feel he would resent any indication that he has a drink problem, then you are unlikely to ave any effect on him. if you haven’t tried talking to him, WHEN HE’S SOBER, and only if you feel you can talk to him or you won’t feel threatened by him, then just say to him that your worried about your brother leaving becuase of his drinking…it’s not nice, he may well get defensive, but me personally, I would at least try saying something, so if anything happends again, you can say ‘I tried’

did your dad start drinking when your mum died? he really needs to get support with his drinking, but and this case, the water may have to come to the camel! phone AA, and get their advice, they have a great supportive network for familes as well as people with the drink problem..

is there a close family member you could stay with? you should never put yourself in a position where you are in danger - GET OUT if you are, call 911 / 999 - you are a child basically living in an environment which is supposed to be the safest place on earth for you…

and your dad can’t really do anything as far as I’m aware, if your 16, in the UK at least, you can move out. although he may have the legal right to tell the police and call you back, he’s unlikely to with the risk of exposure of his behaviour…

I’m so sorry, you must feel so alone…no mum and a dad who your intimidated by… my heart goes out to you…but stand your ground hunny…dads and sons are renowned for fighting, but resorting to physical violence shouldn’t be needed…I’m sorry again…

a very difficult situation…x :)

I think you should move in with your brother because that is abuse and he could get in big trouble for hitting you so I think if you go to the cops you can move in with your brother and you wouldnt have to worry bout your dad hitting you and that also means being in a safer home! Hope I helped!=]

ummm what I would do is I would move in with my brother my family was the same way thts why I moved in with my mom but then she got the same way so I went into foster care and now I live with my grandparents.

I dont know when my dad started drinking but I remeber as soon as mt brother was 14 my dad would go out every night and leave my brother to look after me. My brother is more like my second dad. so I am guessing about 4 years ago.

if it gets relly bad call the abuse place or the cops you arent egzactly a child so you can make most of your own choices I know I am only 13 but I have a 16 in a half year old sis that live with our acoholic father she hates it… good luck girly skater chick aka allison

This situation is awkward because your right it would probably be safer for you to move in with your brother. My dad is an alcaholic, and he has hit my brother before. But when my dad sobers up he always regrets his actions. I do think you can move out at 16 but I think you have to have a parents permission. Maybe if you sit down with your dad but have someone you can trust to be there with you, to make it easier and just try to talk to him and explain how you feel, it may help and he might start to realise it may be the right thing to do to let you live with your brother. I really hope this helps.

godlovesme08 your comment way very inappropriate…read the question!…

you’re 16 you can move out, well where im from you can

Thanks sooitica that really helped!

godlovesme I wish I could live with my mum but she died when I was 3.