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Undescribable boyfriend help. Boys advice wanted! Girls too please

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Im 17, hes 19. We both had awful childhoods full of abuse, and were both eachothers first relationship. Weve known eachother for 5 years, and now we are madly in love. Hes kind of a loner, and the few ‘friends’ he does have, treat him like crap. Him parents always put him down too. Hes graduating late, and were not allowed to talk to eachother. The thing is though, lately hes been skipping class, not calling when we arrange it, and other things. Yet if we are together, there is absolutely no problem. I love him to death and cant tell if hes just being a guy, or what his deal is. He is very clingy, so I know im not being clingy, and there is no possible way hes cheeting on me, so dont even sugest it. What can I do to find out what hes thinking and encourage him to not fail? Oh, and he doesnt do drugs or alch, either. Please help!!! And this btw, we are not allowed to talk, and I have tried: ooh hard one Try and find a way to talk to him Then (this may sould mean but …) tell him he is being rediculuse Explain you are only upset because you care about him And he is scarring you Ask him to explain everything Say I know you have been through a lot but this isnt going to help

Please please please help!

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Answer #1

you know, from what you’ve described; he sounds like a good kid going through a bout of depression. It’s not as uncommon as once believed. See if he would consider a visit to a doctor to rule out the possibility. My nephew will be 19 in Sept. and takes a mild antidepressant. It just makes him feel “normal” and has chased the blues away. Having been abused as a child often leads to depression especially when a teen is just learning the ropes in this thing called “life” You are doing right to show concern. How are you holding up? Do you both get proper nutrition and enough sleep? Best of luck.

Answer #2

yah, just tell him what your questin said, tell him how much you care about him, and what it’s like not knowing whats bothering him, maybe he’ll start to give you atleast a little info then

Answer #3

Girl… You just asked us how to tell your boy that you care for him and ect… so my advice is tell him what you just told us! Im curious to why you guys cant talk… But do somthing that shows that you have all trust in him that he is going to turn out to b an amazing man with an amazing life and he is nothing like his father and he can choose to be better and do more… that life is hard and exciting and that you want to be there by his side every step of the way

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