Why do I have trouble "getting off"?

Best thing to do is have a clean mind, empty house or quiet room. Or something could be blocking you mentally.

Do you have this trouble reaching climax alone too? Do you masturbate frequently? If you masturbate a lot or always do it in the same way then you can desensitize yourself and make it harder for you to reach orgasm with a girl. I would try and cut down on solo sessions, or try new ways of touching yourself, so you get more used to different sensations making you reach orgasm.

Maybe have the girl help you out by touching or oral before you have sex, so you have already had stimulation for a while before you enter her, and you can do the same for her at the same time, getting you both nice and warmed up and happy? If you get nice and turned on before you enter her it should take less time to actually have sex.

Dirty talk, trying different positions (her legs over your shoulders can be good and feel tighter, meaning more sensation for you) or adding some more visual aids like sexy underwear and things could help you as it stimulates all your senses. Being blindfolded can also heighten the feelings for you so maybe get her to do that to you so it is a bit more kinky as well?

If you don’t improve when trying these things then go to your doctor. They will see lots of people with the probelm so don’t be embarrassed, it will just help confirm there is no physical reason for the problem and they will help you work at a solution :)

You might not necessarily have anything wrong with you. Some guys are like that. It could be a medical problem though. Maybe you aren’t really into the girls you sleep with, or don’t enjoy their bodies. Some guys can’t get out when they have to do all the work, while others like doing the work. SOme like it from different positions. Maybe you like some raunchy stuff, like BDSM or anal. Find a girl who is sexually adventurous and experiment! You could try watching porn while you have sex, especially if you are able to get yourself off manually. If you masturbate too often, it makes it harder to come.

You wanna know what I really think? I think you like it kinda dirty and you haven’t met a girl who will do the right things to you yet ;p but shes out there, keep looking. I can’t be the only girl who likes that kind of stuff lol.