How can I focus more on his personality?

uhm well if you like him looks shouldnt matter. I mean you like him because hes him. yes,time DOES change things, but see him and if you dont like him do the usual ‘im sorry it isnt you its me’ thing. just try it never judge a book by its cover (;

In my opinion, and im a guy, I think looks are a very important role in a relationship. just think if you are with this guy and he doesnt turn you on at all, how will you explain that to him when the sexual pleasures arrive? But you asked for help how to overcome, I say get to know him close and just listen to your heart, not your friends.

If you haven’t seen him yet, maybe it isn’t as bad as you fear. Some guys are just as sensitve as girls about their weight. I could mean only a few pounds. Try not to get to woked up about it. But if it is a lot of weight and him being overweight really does bother you, and you want to be with him. Subtly suggest exersizing. Ask him if he wants to try to skateboard. Guys usually like a girl that isn’t afraid to get dirty. If skateboarding isn’t your thing try swimming or biking or any other outdoor activity. If you live in a colder climate with snow do snowball fights or sledding. It will be a great way to get exersize and have fun with him kinda like a date. Hope everything works out for you ;)