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the most shocking brake up of my life!
I meet a great guy at work this summer, he’s 16 and Im 19. He came in the middle of the season at this theme park. Ill call him “GuyB”. At the time I was already going out with some, Ill call him “guyA”. GuyA asked me out in July. He had a curfew for 10pm because he got in trouble with the police. So we didn’t hangout much at night, but we had a few great dates, and hed always says told me he liked me a lot. In the middle of August everyone on the same team at the theme park was invited to this girls house for a party. I asked GuyA, my boyfriend if he could go for a few hours, just to show up, but he said no he had to be at home. So I went with my friend and by this time my friends were saying “its like you guys aren’t even dating” or “Did you kiss yet?” the truth was we didn’t yet. So Im all bummed and can’t wait to hang out with my friends and chill. I get there and well… there aren’t many chairs on the porch, which is where everyone was. At the time 12 people were there and I sat down. GuyB comes and by then there aren’t any chairs left with about 30 people. So he was about to sit on me and I was like “go ahead” Then he said “I’m twice as big as you” which was true. I’m 4’11 and he’s 6’7, but he’s so muscular and skinny. So I sat on his lap and everything was really innocent. However he started flirting with me; kissing my head, tickling my feet. Then he asked wheres guyA? I told him and he got so mad and said guyA told him that he only thinks of me as a friend not a girlfriend. I was so sad but wasn’t shocked. So I called guyA and it turned out he ditched me to go get drunk and lit. After the call, GuyB could tell I was sad so he actually got up and was like “this girl is 100% my type of girl to date! I was like wow! I finally broke up with guyA in late August and hung out with GuyB every single day for a week. We became so close: I told him things I never told some friends and I told him I was still a virgin. I was so comfortable talking to him and he would tell me personal things too. The dates were the most fun Ive had all summer. We finally went out and I drove to his house almost everyday after my college classes. He didn’t get his license yet, but we planned to go to his dads house, 45 minutes away one day and sleep over. I was never so close to a guy before, I actually met his Grandma and his dad that live far away and a couple of his moms boyfriends. His family was so friendly. I decided to finally become intimate with him. 3 weeks later he starts basketball all year round, so he has to get in shape and go to the gym. I still saw him 5 times a week. I went to one off his games last week to take pictures for college and had a great time. That was the last time I saw him. I knew he was going to be busy because he had to help his mom move into their new house. He said it had a trap door for me to sneak out of his room. However the next day I asked him if he wants to go hang out… he said he was too busy and he thinks he doesn’t have time for a steady girlfriend. I was so shocked my body went numb. He said he gets busy when basketball starts and he wants to go to college playing pro. I was all for him playing basketball I even helped him practice. The next two days I never knew I could cry so much and I didn’t eat anything. I was dead inside. I could listen to music because he would sing to me and my car smelt like him. I called him the next day and he said we should meet to talk about things. The next day I met him in my front yard, it was SO HARD to look him in the face and not cry. He basically said he still likes me but him and his family made a career decision. He has to get knee surgery and then has to recover from it. He said you can still call me or Ill call you and we can hang out, but I don’t have time to have a steady girlfriend. I was so depressed and still am, Im an afraid to let go of him, but I haven’t called him since which was 1 day ago. It’s so hard to have a day go by and not hear him talk, kiss, or hug me. We loved each other, but he picked sports over me. What can I do to get him back?
This is such a sad story! :-(
I think you got to think of it as if you where just run over by a car and your in the hospital recuperating. Being ditched like that was very unsensitive and uncaring of this guy. It’s the equivalent of being run over but on the inside.
I totaly understand how crushed you must feel (having been there myself!) especialy after opening up to this guy and trusting him with your heart. Right now you really have to concentrate on yourself and take good care of YOU. At first it will hurt a lot but then day after day you’ll slowly feel better and heal from this horrible break-up.
You could try to get him back but I think that this would not be the best decision since 1-You’ve trusted him before and he really hurt you 2-Desperately hanging on to him will push him away and hurt your self esteem 3-For a relationship to work both parties have to really want to invest themselves and not run away as soon as something else distracts them.
This guy could have made another decision, keeping you in his life and asking you to stand by him while he practiced to become pro but he chose instead to leave you and be alone whether he makes it or not. He’s obviously confused (is he going to be alone all of his life because he plays baseball?) or feeling pressured by his family to leave you (didn’t he say THEY had made the career decision maybe THEY also decided he shouldn’t be dating) or he might just really need to be on his own and despite the love he feels for you, he might feel that it may not be strong enough to invest himself in a serious relationship with you.
Talking to him might help figure out the true answers but nothing is going to make up for the hurt in your heart. If you do get to talk to him just make sure you go there to understand what happened and think about what kind of relationship you want to have with him.
My advice is to pamper yourself and ask good friends to come by and distract you or listen to you. Ask them to help you put your heart back together. I know it’s hard to imagine now but you will get over this and you’ll meet someone else that will be more then willing to take good care of your heart and be there for you through thick and thin. It’s all just a question of time. Sending you good vibes! Zor
The story is sad, but be happy of that this affair is ended, this GuyB is (was) an immamture 16 yo boy, and you are a mature 19 yo lady, be happy of that you had a 16 yo boy in yor life as lover, it is interesting, but now look for a 24 yo Guy C…..OK?
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