How do I get my parents to stop checking up on me?

If you were 13 or 14, or even a bit older, I think you’d more or less have to put with it. But at 20 you could be living in a different state, in a different country, or at least in your own home. So I think you do need to negotiate a bit more freedom.

As people are saying, you need to think first about what may have caused them to want to check on you. Maybe they are a bit paranoid and you could reassure them for a while by texting them and doing the other things people above have suggested. Perhaps you once really gave them a fright (accidentally or deliberately) and they need to regain their faith in you, I don’t know.

But at 20 they have to recognise that you are now responsible for yourself, and while you respect them, and also honour their house rules while you live with them, you are now an independent member of the household, rather than a child or teenager under their care.

if you are doing what your parent say, then why would it bother you?

You’re 20 years old. Maybe since you are still living at home they feel an obligation to help keep you safe. Part of that may be occasionally checking up on you to make sure you are telling them the truth. Especially if you associate with any individuals whom they are not trustful of.

I know it can get on your nerves to not have them trust you, but they really are just trying to protect you. Here’s an idea, how about you call them every so often to keep them updated? or send them a text? say you go to the movies, once you’re done, send them a text saying you’re done at the movies, and you’ll be home in say an hour? maybe if you keep them updated, they wont feel the need to stalk you?

MII PARENTS ARE THE SAME BUUH IN SCHOOL I LEARNT HOW TO STOP THIS SO MUCH 1ST THEY AREN YOUR PARENTS ANDS THEY ARE going to WORRY BOUT YOU THE KEY THING IS TO NEGOTIATE.IF YOU SAY MUM IM GEWIN TO MII FRIENDS HOUSE and ILL phone YOU when I GET THERE AND CUM BK when YOU SAY

SAY TO HER AND HAVE A CHAT SAYING HOW YOU FEEL AND WHAT YOU WANT HER TO DO AND LET HER NEGOTATE and SORT SUMMUT OUT HOPE I HELPED -X- LOZZA

As a parent I have never done that to my children because I do trust them to be where they are supposed to be. I have limited association with others who have proven themselves to be untrustworthy. If you haven’t given your parents cause to doubt you maybe you should examine whether they trust your friend. Talk to them be open, they may just be trying to find out about your life are you communicating? I talk to my kids and they talk to me I would worry if that stopped.