Well he tells me he loves me and stuff and I’ve talked to him about that countless times. He just starts arguing when I do that…

You need to make a pro and con list. What does he do that makes you happy and what makes you mad. Honestly, he seems to be treating you awfully and no one deserves to be treated like that. If he really did love you he would have picked you over the band. You need to be with someone that will care and that will stand up for you. You deserve better than that. You may love him but he doesn’t seem to love you. He may say it but sadly people lie. It may hurt but it’s the truth.

Pls stay away from him, he is not a good boyfriend for you.

If he really deserved you he wouldn’t let anyone, I REPEAT ANYONE mistreat you. So kick that guy to the curb.

1. “If you start an argument, don’t be surprised when it gains momentum” - We all start arguments subconscious of our actions and then regret them when they gain momentum - Ask yourself, ‘Am I the usual starter of the arguments which happen between us?’ If yes, then how are you going to correct that from now on wards? .
2. Expecting him to put you above everything in his life - Trust me, not only is it bad - but you don’t REALLY want it. Guys who tend to make their partners the center of their lives are typically the ones with ‘no lives’. They then try to leech positive emotions off off their partner and are all clingy and smothering….. Quiet frankly, if the girl I am seeing, asks me to put her above my purpose and my passion, I will simply rather choose to respectfully walk away. As disrespectful as that might sound, my purpose and my passions are FAR more important to me than any girl I am seeing. It’s really not cool of you to expect him to put you above everything in his life and NEITHER should you put him above everything in YOUR life - that’s how healthy relationships are sustained. .
3. Boundary - It’s really not cool for him to tolerate his friends bullying you. He should tell them that he will not put up with that kind of behavior. It simply does not make sense for a guy to just stand there complacent while people - friends or not, bully his girlfriend. I don’t think if his friends are real friends, they’ll mind him telling them to stop inappropriately behaving with his partner. .
4. Putting ‘friends’ above ‘girlfriend’ - Quiet frankly, I think most of us guys will put our friends above our girlfriends. Simply because we have known our friends and our friends have known us for far longer. So, if you expect him to put you above his friends, I don’t think he’ll do that. .

5. “He acts awful” - You have to make a mental list of the behaviors you do and you don’t accept from your partner. If your partner violates them, you must be willing to walk away. If he acts in hurtful and awful ways, and if those behaviors are not elicited in him in reaction to any of your actions, then you need to walk away. – Don’t be dumb enough to let yourself take more hurt than you can bear.

   . I really doubt he actually ‘loves’ you - he might say it, but does he mean it? Often times, the arguments and too much emotional drama in a relationship tends to weed guys off off the affectionate feeling they once might have felt for their partners. He might have loved you before, but does he still love you? . The Most Important Question Above All - Are you happy? -A relationship is not supposed to be a painful burden, it’s supposed to be a beautiful synergy between two people who share affection for each other. IF you feel it’s more of a burden, if you feel unfulfilled, unloved and not cared for - then it’s time I think you should move on and find a better person for yourself. You need no other reason other than the fact that you are not really happy and in pain because of the relationship. . If you are not happy - end it. Period. . –Andrew . P.S: Everything I wrote was based on and judging from the little info you put up. Often times, what we think is real and what we misinterpret to be real are very different from what the reality really is. So, be careful before applying the advice. Use your common sense and rational judgment.

Have a talk with your boyfriend together, after all, is not easy to maintain a relationship, mutual understanding, tolerance is the best solution to the problem

I know this is late but i must say you have to know your worth. it seems like he love his band more than he loves you and it shouldn’t be that way. he should appreciate you and you should always come first and if his band don’t accept that then they are not real friends. i would say leave him BUT you have to tell him exactly how you feel first. if he still act like he dont care then you should leave because he is no good. I Hope this helps you with your situation thats if you havent already fixed it i just wanted to give advice.

Thank you for your reply! And we actually broke up..three months ago. It turned out that he didn’t have any feelings for me anymore…though I talked to him few days ago and he was jealous of a guy I told him about. I don’t really understand him..