How do I get my parents to lighten up and let me live?

Wow. Your parents are way strict. You are 20 years old.. you can move out without their permission. Remember, they are your parents, if you tell them that you want to move out.. yeah of course they’d be angry at first but AS YOUR PARENTS they should realize that you need their support.

i know its easier said then done, alot of things will become of you moving out. your parents are gonna be so pissed at you ( i know i come from a ethnic strict background) but you have to live your own life. im 22 and at the end of my rope getting ready to move out this weekend and my parents are gonna not talk to me for a long time to come. yeah i feel guilty but its my life and i cant be feeling like im on a leash all the time. So do whatever you think is going to make you happy.

UMMM , Im sorry, your 20 years old? Need I say more? Youre your own person. And youve been an dult for 2 years now. You dont have to do what your parents say. Your not a child anyomore. Seriously, THEY CANT TELL YOU WHAT TO DO ANYMORE MOVE OUT! And no one can tell you who to love, no matter what age you are- remember that. You love your boyfriend and your parents need to accept that. It doesnet matter what ehtnic backround your boyfriend is.

I feel the pain…

you are 20. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! The only curfew you have is the one The Law instates. You can see your boyfriend if you want.

Hey im not as old as you but sriously im an Indian aswell, my parents are just like urs they wont let me go out with my friends they wont let me get a girlfriend and theyre just really stingy, you know sometimes I hate the fact that im Indian I hate it when the kids @ school give me so much crap, I hate it when I get called a terrorist And the thing I hate the most is the fact that I can like any girl I want but I can’t express that feeling because of my fucking parents, seriously when I grow up I feel like running away and marrying who I like, If you have the urge to runaway think about it and if you really do want to then go ahead but otherwise you can grit your teeth and endure it until such time.

You said your parents don’t believe in dating. Do they have someone in mind for you? I would think that’s part of the reason they hate your boyfriend, though I also would think they would have married you off by now if they did.

If you want to move out, you need to show your parents how prepared you are. Be specific about where you’re going - make an outline if you have to. Try to have a place ready before you tell them anything. Make sure that you make enough money that you can be completely independent of your parents financially. Remember that you’re telling them you’re moving out, not asking for their permission.

After you’ve moved out, try to visit them often. You usually get along with people better when you’re not living in the same house. In any case, you know your parents best. You should know what to do.

bah.. I am indian too ! Talking to them is hard, and will just result in emotional pain, and might cause a decline in your grades and your relationship. Instead, focus on getting good grades, and finding an excellent job out of state after you graduate, or at least far away from your current home. Keep working on getting them used to the idea that you would move out and would work anywhere you find a good opportunity.

I am not sure messing around with dogmatic parents on your 3rd year of undergrad is going to do much good professionally. you will lose, they won’t bother as much… and for now, spend all the time at school. try to get an internship for the summer and move out!

hey I m not 20 but my parents don’t let me hang out with boys or even let me talk to them. I actually kissed and dated a guy behind their back. They don’t even know that I have a boyfriend. My dad isn’t into these things that much but my mom is a pain in the booty. She does not even let me go to the park or my friend’s house alone. You know you are lucky that you are 20. I can’t wait till I m 18 and I move out. Talk to your parent and if they don’t agree with you than do it anyways. No matter how mad they get, they will always ♥love♥ u. So good luck but don’t be sad when they are mad at u. You can always make up and also look up to them.

You are in the same situation as me. All of the above happened to me. It still happens. You can’t help it. That’s just how they are. They must love you a lot though. At least they won’t kick you out of the country. Mine may even do that.

Move out already. You’re 20 you can’t mooch off you’re parents forever. Seriously now. And no matter how you think it, you will always be your mommas baby. Even when you have kids of your own. Trust me, I have 3 kids and my mom still thinks I’m 11 years old and I’m 27. Get a part time job, get a room mate, and finish school .

The only way to do this is becoe financially independent, in other words, support yourself and move out. After you have made arraingements to move into your appartment or room, tell them that you love them, but you have decided to move out and be your own person, and you do not want any hurt feelings, and you love them no matter what. Then do it, but be prepared for a rough go for awhile. As long as you live with your parents and do not support yourself in anyway, yes, it is only proper you follow the house rules. If yo feel that you cannot, then move out.

Being an indian, I know what youre going through. You should think about your parent’s reputation too. We are American but we are also indian. We were taught morals and respect and you should not forget that because of a boyfriend. You need to tlk to your parents and explain to them why you think he’s your soulmate. And you need to let them speak as well. They are only trying to protect you because you know how some girls are stupid and think they found the love of their life but the boyfriend is still messing around without her knowing. With all respect, im in the same situation. I’ve been dating someone for 5 years but hes of the same cultural background. My parents dont like him because of his family. There are obstacles but don’t forget about your parents. Respect what your boyfriend does for you too. If hes proven to be loyal and caring then tell your parents. They will eventually be happy you found someone that will give you unconditional love.