Racked with guilt over boys

I have a serious issue. Last year, there was this boy (lets call him Bob, to protect his identity). I really liked him and we were really close. But then he tells me he’s moving tomorrow and I’ll never see him again. So I told Bob how I felt. After he left, I had a really rough year. I went through serious depression, and my mother didn’t even care. She just shouted at me when I asked to see a counsillor. I also had real bad self-esteem issues - who wouldn’t when the one person you want doesn’t want you? And eventually I got over him. Well, I thought I had. Then I met my boyfriend. We’ve been together for three months. But now I can’t stop thinking of Bob, and I feel really bad because my boyfriend loves me so much and I’m thinking about someone else. What do I do?

Answer #1

its ok to slightly think about someone else but when you are constantly thinking of him and not your boyfriend then theres a problem. its best to forget about that person (bob) because there are many people out there that you will fall in love with and eventually you might find someone better

Answer #2

thank you… but I don’t think about him… ALL the time. I just think sometimes how angry I am because he left me. And I’ve tried to forget him - I deleted his number, I ripped up the pages in my diary about him; I even dyed my hair. And apparently, none of its worked. I love my boyfriend so much, but Bob won’t get out of my head… x

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