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m a 22 years girl.my story is quite a long one.bt I want 2 ya 2 help me get out of this. it starts from 4 years back.I jz finished my 12th and met this guy X in the coaching classes for mass communication and ol...I met X,we became very gud frnz and in few days we strtd going around wd one another.X's frn who ws ma common fr too told me dt X was very serious abt me and is about to propose me shortly,so I shud bettr be prepared of d entyr thing.m d only daughter of ma parents.I had an elder brother but he expired 12 years ago.so I dun want ny tym pass and ol as I neither want to hurt myself nor do I want to hurt nybdy else.I told the same thng to X's frn.he said X wud never hurt me as he doesnt have his father and he knows the entyr feeling.I ws really convinced and I sai yes to X vn he proposed me.v wre vry hppy 2thr around 2 years.in d meantym he cnvncd me for making out and I accptd d sme as I blindly trusted hm..it ws for the first tym I did d sme ..n dt too only to mke hm believe that I was mad for him and that I cud cross ol my limits for same...aftr 3-4 months only he strtd ignring me...I trd my level best to know wt d prob ws bt he never told me nythng..however aftr smtym I dscvrd dt he ws two-tyming..I ws shattered...v parted our ways...for arnd 2 years I rmd single..dint accpt any proposal...hoping he wud realise his mistake and wud cum back..bt dt dy never came...dn I joined an institute for my post graduation.X also joined d sme institute...now cums d twist in d story dre I met ds guy A...very sweet,very caring,did nythng to make me smyl,treated me like his kid...pampered me...did hell lots of thngs...I dun no vn he strtd falling for me...he knew abt X ...I olwyz treated hi like ma bst frn...dn 1 dy he proposed me...I denied d offer sying dt I wud mrry only wd d fellow whm ma parents wud search for me...as I dun thnk dt I can judge ny guy well..he widout telling me..met my mom...convinced her...he cried infront of her saying he cant live widout me ..blah..blahh...mom ws convinced...he evn made his parents tok wd my parents...she agreed of A...aftr sumtym seeing him do so much for me...I also strtd thinking about him in d sme manner...now d prob that has cum up is..dre have been lots of trivial fyts between us from last 2-3 months,,,but we are still 2gthr evn aftr fyting like enemies...now d major reason bcz of which m bothered is dt from last few days he has started lying and now he says that he is uncertain about the relationship as the tym for our placements is cuming and he doesnt knows where he wud get a job for himself...I in d beginning only told him dt I wont settle far away from my parents...n now He's saying dt he cud tk up a job outsyd delhi...since last 4-5 months we came soo close to each other..we have crossed ol our limits and now he syz He's nt vry certain as to v wud b able 2 mrry each other or not...he syz dt he dun have ny prob in marrying me if I can settle ny where he gets d job(outsyd delhi)I cant live wdout him..but I cant leave my parents ol alone...I no aftr mrrge a girl needs to settle down wd her husband bt vn I told hm in d strting only dt I wont dn why is he creating ds scene...I have trd evrythng I cud to cnvnce hm bt of no use...I hve crd infrnt of hm soo mny tyms..n seeig me cry he also strts cryung...I dun no how to handle ds ol...my as well as my momz trust has been cmpltly shattered as he promised me so much...please guide mee..I dun no wt is happening???I feel cheated,used for the second tym...dun I have a ryt of luving sm1...y is ds ol happening wd me???m I very bad dt m nt abl to handle ny of d relations???plzzz pzz guide...m going mad...I really need smbdy to show me d correct direction...