How to get my boyfriend turned on over the phone?

I didnt say im not comfortable doing it. I want to do it. OK? I just dont know what to say thats the prob. its got nothing AT ALL 2 do with me not wanting it.. I didnt ask for people to say stuff like that I asked for a bit of help…

Sorry, it just sounded like perhaps you weren’t comfortable with doing it. If you’re comfortable with it, then just go ahead and say what the first thing is that pops into your head is and go from there. Every situation is unique - there isn’t a set formula of what to say or what you should say.

Excerpted from “”The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex”” http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,9j7q,00.html

The whole thrust of this book has really been about getting to know who you are when you emerge from the shadows and step fully into your womanhood. Now, with the help of one of my very favorite exercises, you will use the rich material your fantasies have given you to create your very own Bad Girl vocabulary.

Did you ever go to summer camp? One of my fondest memories is when the lights in our cabin would go out and a dozen 12- to 14-year-old girls would play Mad-Libs in the dark. Mad-Libs (a take-off on ad-libs) involved fill-in-the-blank stories that revolved around a theme that wasn’t revealed until all of the blanks had been filled in.

It’s time to play this ad-lib game again, but a much more adult version. This time the theme is S-E-X, and the blanks are going to be filled in with the words and phrases that you would use to describe your fantasies

Bad Lib #1

Theme: A Letter to Your Lover

Here’s a great way to introduce your new vocabulary to your lover (and warm up your “engine” at the same time). Just imagine how thrilled he’ll be to find this letter waiting for him on his pillow!

Darling I’ve been thinking about you all day and about how much I love your (noun). I can’t get it out of my head. I love the way it feels in my (noun). Just thinking about it there makes my (noun) (adjective). I wish you were here right now so that I could run my (noun) up and down your (noun). No one’s (noun) has ever affected me the way yours does. The way you (verb) me with it makes me want to scream with delight. My (noun) is (verb)-ing just imagining you (verb)-ing me. Come and get me, Darling. My (noun) is your (noun).

How’s that for some big-time fun? Ready for another one? Try this one on for size.

Bad-Lib #3

Theme: Bad in Bed

Here’s how you can take a few glowing coals and fan them until they’re a raging bonfire of desire, emotion, and physical passion. Talking sexy in bed is what separates the Bad Girls from the merely bold. And since this isn’t The Good Girl’s Guide to Bold Girl’s Sex, I’m figuring you must want to be Bad.

I’ve been thinking about your hands on my (noun) all day. Can I put your hand there myself? Your fingers are so strong. I love how their slight roughness feels against the silkiness of my (noun). I’m getting (adjective). Can you feel it? (Verb) me again; just like you just did. Do you mind if I (verb) your (noun)? I’d really like to. Actually, I need to. Actually, if I don’t, I may just go out of my mind. Give it to me. Give me your (adjective) (noun). Put it in my (noun). Do you like that? I like it. I like it a lot. In fact, I love it. You’re getting so (adjective). Touch my (noun). Look what you’re doing to me. I’m going to (verb) my (noun) so that you can (verb) me there. Just like that. Just like that. Give me more. I need more. Touch my (noun) while you (verb) me. Feel my (noun). It feels so good. Your (noun) feels so good. Your (noun) tastes so good. Does my (noun) taste good? Tell me how good it tastes. You’re driving me crazy. I’m ready for your (noun). Can I have it? Can I have it now? Oh yes. Thank you. Thank you. My (noun) is on fire. If you touch it I might … You’re like a (noun) of (noun) inside me. I can’t take much more. I’m close to (verb)-ing. (Verb) with me. I want to (verb) with you. It’s close; it’s so close. (Verb) me harder. Faster. Deeper. Harder.

Whew! Personally, I’m ready for a cigarette and I don’t even smoke! Hot enough for you? BAD enough for you? If not, bump it up a notch or two. If it’s a little too hot to handle, choose the phrases you like, use those, and then make up some of your own. This isn’t a script to be memorized so much as a “blue” print for your own personal dialogue. You don’t need me to put words in your mouth; you’ve become quite proficient at that on your own. And you are soundin’ like one Bad package now, truly talking the Bad Girl talk.

From The Good Girls Guide to Bad Girl Sex by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., © 2001, Barbara Keesling, Ph.D. Reprinted by arrangement with M. Evans and Company, Inc.

xox Sika

listen to her!!!

Phone sex is just awkward…

It can be a total turn off for some people because it just ends up being cheesy.

If you aren’t vocal(which I’m assuming you aren’t b/c you’re probably a virgin) while having sex, then phone sex is just going to be a strain.

If you really want to know how to get him turned on over the phone you need to be asking HIM not us! Communication is key in a relationship.

xox Sika

Sorry, but perhaps you should be a bit more clear with your questions… I figured that since you were saying “but I just dont know what to say to get him turned on” and “I know you lot are gona say somethin like ‘just tell him what you would do to him during sex’ but its so hard for me” that you weren’t totally comfortable with doing it - especially since you already stated you had an idea what we would say to you. If its hard, it generally means you’re not comfortable with it. But maybe I was wrong - sorry you didn’t like my advice :)

ill ask again, does any1 have any things I can say? I do know him well enough he tells me what turns him on but I dont wana repeat the same thing straight away anyway im just wondering what things I could say? thats all I want you to give me ok. no adivce or saying “ask him” im just seein if any1 has any dirty phrases

tell himm that your touchin your self. and that you wish his head was in your vagina!

…or you simply don’t know your boyfriend well enough to KNOW what would turn him on. After all… WE certainly don’t know him.

If you’re not comfortable doing it, then I suggest you simply just don’t do it.