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Am I a bad person

So I’ve been going out with this boy for about 2 months now, it’s Christmas and he spent like £25 on me but I wasn’t able to give him anything back (no money) and also I have feelings for someone else. I’m really grateful for what he does for me and I have some feeling for him but he’s very short tempered and such and I don’t like the fact he doesn’t have a lot of patience towards other and is violent. Last night I was talking to my best friend Ben, and I’ve had feelings for him for a while, we’re really close and help each other with all our problems. We were bored so I asked him who he fancied and he said no one. Then he asked me and when I said I couldn’t tell him, he started to say random people that we know. Then he said me and I said no because I didn’t want to tell him. About 5 minuets later I told him that if I wasn’t in a relationship I would go out with him because he’s so close to me at heart. He then told me he’s has feeling for me as well. Right now I’m over whelmed and have no idea what to do. I feel bad because I have a boyfriend but also happy Ben actually likes me. I’ve been planning to break up with my boyfriend for weeks now but since its Christmas and he’s spent so much on me I can’t break up with him because of my reputation. Any help on what I should do? And should I feel bad?

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Answer #1

Honestly, I think you need to somehow come up with some money for a gift just because he is getting you something and then sometime after the holidays have cleared out end the relationship.

Answer #2

your not a bad person stuff like that happens you just have to be honest with him and your feelings cause stringing him alone is the worseeeeeee u owe it to tell him you know,,, how would you feel if you were with a guy and he stringed you alone…? and he had a girl on the side? and you were really into him,,,, you would most likely be heartbroken just tell him how you feel when the times right,.. good luck(:

Answer #3

That’s what I was planning to do thanks

Answer #4

That’s what I was planning to do thanks

Answer #5

Okay, thank you

Answer #6

Ooh you naughty girl.

Naughty, naughty, naughty.

Answer #7

You are not a bad person, you just have to be true to your feelings. What I suggest you do is you pay your boyfriend back for the gift he bought you and break up with him as soon as possible. If you want to be with Ben, you have every right to do so. Don’t stay with someone because you feel obligated to. If your boyfriend is violent, you need to break up with him in a public place so you two aren’t alone. Don’t worry about what other people think of you, it’s none of their business what you do with your life.

Answer #8

Thank you

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