need advice on abortions and parents

I’m 15 and pregnant. I have a really supportive boyfriend but I’m afraid to tell my dad. I can’t talk to my dad about this kind of stuff at all. I think I want an abortion, it’s the only way I can stay in school. Are they safe?

Answer #1

I would tell my parents if I were you, but iam not you. we have been trying to adopt for 5 years now we can’t have anymore children and would love another child. if you ever want to talk let me know shelleycrews@telus.net

Answer #2

please please dont murder your baby! I am married trying so hard to have ababy and I think you knew how babies were made just please think about it adopt it out or something dont murder it please!

Answer #3

Well, although technology and medicine have become more advanced, abortions are still a dangerous procedure to go through. After having an abortion you are at risk of negative physical and psychological side-effects. “A woman’s body naturally resists the abortion, causing physical and emotional problems.”(http://www.abortioninfo.net/facts/affect2.shtml) Possible negative physical effects include: -Uterine bleeding occurring on the second or third day -Prolonged bleeding/spotting lasting more than two weeks -African American women who have had abortions are 4.7 times more likely to get breast cancer -the occurrance of either induced or spontaneous abortions independently and significantly increased the risk of subsequent development of secondary infertility. This is increased because after an abortion a women’s uterus lining becomes weak not being able to hold an egg which requires months, maybe years to recover.

The psychological side effects vary from woman to woman.

If you are feeling that you and your partner cannot handle having a child try adoption. Many capable and caring parents who cannot conceive will provide a home for your child.

As for talking to your dad, it is important for your safety and your baby’s to discuss this situation with your father. If he really cares and loves you than he will eventually look past his anger or disappointment and find out how to help you better. He may be able to give you ideas or options on what you should do. If your boyfriend is supportive than he will support your decision. Be careful and make the right choice for you.

Answer #4

I know its scarry but living with being the one who choose to kill your baby will be really hard later in life. Please dont kill it I would do anything for a baby you can finish school get your ged there are programs to help you out please think about adoption or some thing other than murder!

Answer #5

and btw, for all of those who are in favor of adoption, do some research first……….

not every child gets a home, most grow up in orphanages and have to fend for themselves, I have 3 friends who are like that, they curse the very fact that their mother brought them into this world only to let them struggle from the get go………

Answer #6

Sounds to me like you were irresponsible and now you think an abortion will just solve everything. Your boyfriend isn’t supportive, he just doesn’t wanna have to pay child support. Abortions will wreck your life, ggnore.

Answer #7

you know, All that was to be said has been said

I for one will pray for your safety and wish you good luck with whatever you decide.

But sweetie just be careful from now onwards……….God Speed

Answer #8

You need to sit down and speak to your dad about this situation .. he may be mad and hurt at first but he will get over it .. you can still have a life an go to school with a baby .. i know i have done it my self .. dont go having an abortion if you truly not sure ..

Answer #9

You need to sit down and speak to your dad about this situation .. he may be mad and hurt at first but he will get over it .. you can still have a life an go to school with a baby .. i know i have done it my self .. dont go having an abortion if you truly not sure ..

Answer #10

You need to sit down and speak to your dad about this situation .. he may be mad and hurt at first but he will get over it .. you can still have a life an go to school with a baby .. i know i have done it my self .. dont go having an abortion if you truly not sure ..

Answer #11

Well my opinion is that you should NOT get an abortion for whatever reason you have. It was your decision to go and have sex now you have to pay the consequences. I’m not trying to say this in a mean way but, seriously, it’s not your baby’s fault that you got pregnant. Why would you kill it before it actually got a chance to live??

Answer #12

gurl if u feel thats right then do it besides you are 15 so u sould just do what u think is right

Answer #13

Choice ends, when another life begins. - you messed up. if you didn’t want to get pregnant, you shouldn’t have had sex. You are taking life away from a person. Someone from your own family. Abortion is just like shooting your cousin- but worse, your cousin has had a chance to live and discover life. Your baby has never even opened thier eyes. Your choice was to have sex or not. When another life begins, your choice ends. you need to give that baby a chance…

adoption clinics are all over the place, there are tons of great places where you can chose the parents your child goes to, and even get to meet your child as he/she grows up…but they can never grow up, if hey are never born

Answer #14

if you aren’t against abortions and you think it is right, then go for it, but make sure its what you want. i believe it is if you are 6wks-3 months then it is by the vaccum, and it doesn’t hurt at all bc they put you under. in some states you need a parent/guardian,but in others you will just need someone there to drive you home bc you will feel goofy afterwards. i don’t recommend taking the abortion pill bc it doesn’t always work totally. i think it is a girls body and you can do whatever you want and whatever you feel comfortable doing.

Answer #15

oh it is tough, my best friend got pregnant at the age of 15 also. if u do decide to get an abortion, u must act quickly, as it is iilegal past i believe, 3 months. give ure bf my props for supporting u. also, to deal with ure dad. he will be vry upset, and may say things, but does not mean them. if he gets upset, it is becuz he has a hopeful future for u, but, adoption could be an option. it would give u some self comfort, and give someone else a child, who may not be able to hav one. many parents r open to helping u take care of the child, so u never no. but dont worry to much, watever decision u make, ull be just fine, but ure parents would rather find out from u, then someone else, or jus guessing. so good luck!! and let me no wat happens!!

Answer #16

oh it is tough, my best friend got pregnant at the age of 15 also. if u do decide to get an abortion, u must act quickly, as it is iilegal past i believe, 3 months. give ure bf my props for supporting u. also, to deal with ure dad. he will be vry upset, and may say things, but does not mean them. if he gets upset, it is becuz he has a hopeful future for u, but, adoption could be an option. it would give u some self comfort, and give someone else a child, who may not be able to hav one. many parents r open to helping u take care of the child, so u never no. but dont worry to much, watever decision u make, ull be just fine, but ure parents would rather find out from u, then someone else, or jus guessing. so good luck!! and let me no wat happens!!

Answer #17

Do not get an abortion. Thats the clearest you can make it. If you are worried about school, try home schooling, it’s good and it does count for a diploma. As for the child, if you are not able to care for him/her adoption. There are hundreds of couples in the US alone, wanting kids and are not capable to conceive, and are looking to adopt a child. if you lettt the baby live, he/she will have a home no matter what the circumstances. Yes, tell your one or both parents. They have to know. you will need medical attention no matter what, so its best to do it now. I know you are young, buttt you will get by, and if your boyfriend is as wonderful as he puts on to be, he should support you in your descision…

Answer #18

Stop it people! stop telling her she’s irresponsible. She probably knows what she has done and needs support, not nasty comments. It’s very important that you act fast. If you decide to have an abortion, do it as fast as possible. In the beginning it is not dangerous, especially done with vacuum. But maybe you have to tell at least one of your parents, since you are under 18. Don’t go to some illegal doctor, because the consequences might be harsh. Of course you want an abortion and of course you want to stay in school. Just, calm down. Go and talk to your parents. Fix everything as soon as possible. And yes, of course, next time think more about such effects as pregnancy and STDs. GOOD LUCK and I hope everything will be fine.

Answer #19

I owuld tell your parents if i were you, i told my mom and she is the strictist person alive, she is still mad, but not growling or anything like that, my friend is pregnant and about to give birth in a couple of weeks, she is still i school, and after the baby is born, there are some teachers going to her house, and she doesnt have to do as many classes, just the neccessary ones, so she doesnt have to quit, there are ,many options as well as that. it will be hard but it can be done, do what you feel is best for you,…take care

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