How can my mom and I live together peacefully?

I think you both need help , her with her moods and you a way to deal with them…I would talk to a councilor at school and see what she says to do…once she hits you, you will have a legal way to get her the help she needs,…you can either agree with her which will throw her off and she wont’ know what to say next. …just agree with her verbally but inside say to yourself you know better and she is wrong…sometimes we deal with naracisstic people who have to control everyone in the house, and they usually focus on the weaker person or female…sometimes women don’t want or can’t deal with another woman in the house and push them out anyway they can so they are the only female…

My mom and i fight like brother and sister too, and what makes it worse is my little sister, but some how we manage to get along. Sometimes if i get really frustrated then i go in my room and read the Bible. It might sound stupid but it helped me and i was calm the rest of the night and i felt good about it. I have a few times thought about running away but then i thought i would get in more trouble when i got back so i didn’t which means you shouldnt either.

Perhaps your long showers is putting her behind in her schedule try taking a shorter shower or in the evening and see if that helps. If she is doing the cooking then I can understand why she wants you to do the dishes. Just try to stay out of her way and do your part and give her more space. If that doesn’t work then maybe you need to find a new roommate. Good luck.

A think, your mother has serious emotional problems, not with you, but with all of her life. It can be worse than your problem with her. Staying out of her way and holding your tongue is good advice, and if the situation gets more seriouse asking a counsellor/police is also important, etc.. Do not hesitate if this would be needed. But try to start your problem-solving action with some positive steps, e.g. when she is rough with you, you may tell her: “OK, Mom, but I love you”, or similar. Try to keep your good mood, make some innoncent jokes, or croon. Maybe she will react positively. BUT: the most important thing is: not to learn this type of neurasthenic reactivity to the life. Save your menthal health! The best way to this is keeping your good mood, even if it needs psychic efforts.

I don’t think it’s you behavior or that she’s a lunatic. Two people living together are bound to have disagreements. While she might be extreme in some of her verbalizations, try to look at it from her point of view. Does she dote on you all the time? (give you $$$, do your laundry, do dishes, make food etc.) All of that will finally make a person snap. In your relationship (mother/son) you both need to give and take. So look at your relationship with your mom and try to balance things out.

Dear lonestar34, Sounds like your mother could be in or heading for depression. She also could be old enough to be heading into menopause. Regardless she should not threaten you or anyone. So the question is how do you deal with her…there is no clear cut way other than staying out of her way and when she rants and raves just hold your tongue. I know it may be difficult but if she isn’t well arguing with her will make it worse. Do your chores, obey your curfews etc. If she does strike you or lock you out you need to call someone you trust and then perhaps even the police. This may be her way of reaching out for help. Seek out the advice of your school counsellor they usually have a wealth of information. Sue…good luck

my mom did the same thing. i could not do any thing right i would clean and cook and take care of brother and sister. she would not let me wash cloths so she could ruin my my pants she would put 17 pairs in at one time that would ruin the pants alot of little white lines left on them and landry detregant on them. she knew that drove me crazy. she was mad because her life was over and her looks were gone and i was just getting started in life so she was going to make my life a living hell. yeah you she tried real hard it didn’t work because i knew she was jealous and i felt sorry for her. she would yell at me and trun my brother and sister on me and my dad. so the whole family hated me and treated me like a slave. i learned to not make the misteaks she made because i did’nt want to be like her and she knew this. so after she kept me up allnight before my 16th b-day asking me what i did with her drugs and she even said that she knew i was coming on to my dad (what!!!!!!!!!!!!) i knew then she was sick. so on my b-day she actted like nothing happened. she knew that my 16th b-day was so improtant to me so she destored it. i stoped fighting with her it was a battle i didn’t want to win. soon i would be gone any way so i just didn’t say anything any more. i would just look at her when she started up. the look on my face was like how could you say that iam just a kid you truned into a victem. i was gone by 16 1/2.