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My friend's funeral and my boyfriends birthday are on the same day

Please help me to do the right thing.

My friend, Nick Lewis died recently [07.15.08] due to a motorcycle accident and I had never actually seen him in person but we usually always message each other on myspace, chat on aim, and text on the phone, etc. and he is a really good supportive friend and a great person.

My boyfriend takes birthday VERY SERIOUSLY especially this one because it’s his 18th birthday AND he’s going to turn himself in pretty soon after his birthday which makes the celebration even more important.

I don’t want to piss my boyfriend off but I really would like to show some respect to Nick.

I did think about going to both…but I think the funeral will take a while and I really don’t want to leave in the middle of someone making a speech or something, that’s just super rude.

What would you do?

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Answer #1

I know this is kinda an old question, but I hope you went to the funeral, your boyfriend will have many birthdays to come, but your friend, only one funeral.

Answer #2

Wow We Have The Same Problem

Answer #3

If your boyfriend is truly a friend he will understand..make it up on a different day…death never comes as friend and is always inconvenient.

Answer #4

he’s not having a party. he’s going to be left alone the whole day if I’m not with him because before the accident with Nick happened, I did give my boyfriend my words telling him I’m going to spend the whole day with him on his birthday :(

Answer #5

yep, you can go to both if youve got the day to spare first go to the funeral, as hat one sounds more important you should be able to stay there untill its over or almost over then go to your boyfreinds party and celebrate with him if hes having a party later on in the day it will be easier if he isnt, you could try doing things the other way around but yeah…just tell him you need to go to your freinds funeral, but youll also come to his party…he should understand

Answer #6

Do to the funeral, then to the party. Your b/f should understand your problem, as all of us, he is also a mortal.

Answer #7

He will understand go to your friends funeral and its ok to leave just go for a while and show some respect to him

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