Mum's a B**ch

sorry about it being so long but I really need help.

Well my mum is so mean when it comes to me and my boyfriend. It was a year on monday so we thought we’d celebrate on the sunday but as I am at boarding school you need permissions and things.. so I asked my mum and she was like oh 1-7 is too long.. so she told my dorm teacher and they both thought it should be 1-6. But I said to my mum I normally get 6 hours anyway and the fact that it was our only chance to be together for a while it should of been longer. She doesnt get the fact that yes she is my mother and I do love her but that I woul do anything for my boyfriend.. and if I had to choose between them it would be him. She doesnt respect my relationship and she is always making me do stuff or watching us when he stays at mine, because she “doesnt trust me” not like she has ever listened to me when I tell her somethings wrong but anyway… I said today about seeing him on sunday and she was syaing something about how I assume I was going to see him and didnt ask her and things when there was no point in doing that if he was working.. I told her that and she just started shouting at me as usual… the dorm teachers dont get my relationship and they dont seem to get the fact its not just a relationship and that there isnt other guys out there for me… I’ve tried talking to them about it but they just dont care enough.. but they care when someone else is upset or something and I hardly ever see my boyfriend.. right now he is going through a tough stage and I dont care whether anyone believes our relationship or not anymore but he needs me so much and is on the verge of breaking and I dont know what to do. I am only 15 and he’s 17 yes I get that we’re young and have forever and all but I just want to know what can I do to make my mum listen or something… if no one can help me then I guess I will just give up with her all together. so if you can help thanks =) really appreciated x

Answer #1

No you dont understand… its not any relationship and im not “in love”…it is actually real. My relationship with him is better than my mum’s with her boyfriend of 6 years is.. and we’re not stupid enough to have un-protected sex or anyhting like that. we are not two teenagers in a “relationship”. We know what we want and I know what guys can be like and I can promise you he mean’s what he says about being with me forever. And you cannot say that you have been in a relationship like this. because I know for a fact it wont of been. you cant just trust a guy like that.. it takes time and you need to be able to put up with each others faults and work with it. Thats what I meant about they dont get our relationship. I know the difference in “love” and love. I have been there and I know someone who thinks her and her boyfriend are in love but they have never met and she lives in scotland, he lives in wales. He has told her he cant meet up with her and she is okaii with that. if they loved each other they would do everything they could to see each other. so dont tell me that I dont know what true love is and dont say it doesnt exsist.

Answer #2

hi sorry to hear this But your mom does care if she didn’t she wouldn’t even bother to stop you but it seems she doesn’t know how to express her feeling your 15 you have got your entire future ahead of you imagine what will happen if you get pregnant or got a transsexual disses you future will be jeopardized is ain’t that right ? and you must have done something to make her not trust you the only I see it is to make her trust you again and tell that you value your future in the end you can’t trade your future and your mom for a relationship that may and may not last believe me I am 16 I had these feelings many times before and risked every thing for them but in the I was the only 1 who lost and you should thank god that she cares I have friends who’s parents don’t even care at first I thought it was cool but someone made me realize how it effected them now he smokes drinks and flunks school would like to have his life ? probably not sorry for the long answer

Answer #3

I dissagree. your mom needs 2 accept the fact that your with him. and waching you and your boyfriend at your moms house is violating your privacy. she needs to give you guys some space. if she keeps suffocating you guys like that its only gonna make you rebel. you should try to talk to her in a mature manner. good luck<3

Answer #4

I agree with a7med93. & dont assume about your love life either. you cant say that theres no other guy for you out there. you dont know that no one does. you cant just focused on one guy. sometimes we(girls) make our bfs our #1 priority bec we feel its right and we feel that they do the same for us but most of them dont and later on you’ll see that your mom does care you should be happy that at least she gave you 6 hrs to be with him.

Answer #5

Your mom cares familys there for ever not boy friends do yours self a favor and grow up. Yours truly, Demika Ray

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