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You might say im disgusting, but im 14 and my friend (lets call her x)is 15 and at x's party there were 6 of us playing dares, and one of them dared us to finger eachother. So we did. But then when it came to going to bed, we had a sleepover, just us two. And we did things to eachother. We were fingering and snogging. Then she put a dildo up me, and then she ate me out. I dont know what to do. I think I love her. Its happened 4 times since then. And I want more. What do I do??? :(
I agree with hivetyrant that you might have felt the same thing if a guy had sexually pleased you, but I don't agree with him that homosexuality is wrong. You might be straight, you might be bi, you might be a lesbian. You are young, and will experience a whole lot more in the coming years of your adolescence to better determine your orientation and desires.
For now I would say, if it feels good, and your friend is still interested, then keep going. I would encourage you to talk with her about it though and discuss your feelings and questions you have. You don't have to say "I think I love you" if you don't want, and in fact I'd say you might want to just enjoy being with her and others and wait to decide if it's love.
Instead you might want to ask why she likes it, as in does she like that it's naughty and not allowed, or does she genuinely like being with girls. What re your feelings on the same question? Do you like boys too, and want to be sexually active with them? Does she? There's a lot to think about and a lot to talk about. Communication is huge. It doesn't have to be really deep. Just start with figuring out the basics of your and her feelings and then let it gradually unravel as you discover more about yourself.
To add some personal perspective, I have been masturbating since I was 13, and have always been interested in the female body, especially breasts, but I've also always been interested in guys. I am now 22 and I've had a steady boyfriend for a couple years now who I am extremely sexually active with. I didn't get a boyfriend until college, and never experimented with anyone before that. I've never been with a girl, but my boyfriend is accepting of me possibly being bi and some day maybe I'll go ahead and experiment with that. My point is, you learn and grow, and you wil definitely experience a ton of things and learn stuff about yourself you can't even dream of right now in the coming years.
Hope that helps. :)
Your hormones can make you do crazy things, so if after thinking about the act and you are not happy with it you most likely don't love her. You just had as you can call it a unique experience of exploration with a friend. Which I don't think is that terrible. However to prevent this from harming you in the future the activities you listed would be most safe to do only to one's self.
It's not love, it's hormones.
I personally am against homosexuality, but it's your choice, and so long as you keep your sex life to yourself, I don't generally say anything about it.
But realize that you're both teenagers with hormones running all over the place. If it had been a guy who go to you first, you'd feel the same way about him.
ummm...no I don't think you are disgusting...maybe a little confused...or maybe you really love her?Or maybe you felt since you've done that it's okay to experiment more...But is that what you want???!!
you dont need to worry, if you enjoy carry on. I've done things with a girl before over and over again but im not bi or anythng just younge and want sex lmao. so have fun!
just let her do it because ill eat anyone out especially my bestie ho im sure is a lesbian
Maybe your bi if you like doing this stuff with your friend