love epidemic

im having a problem,, I love her so much that I dont want her to be unhappy or to leave her, but I love myself to much to settle for being un happy. cause she wants me to be patient, but I want to live. weve done everything, I’ve told her everything I feel for her how ide do anything for her, kill someone, steal something, take a bullet for her, those kind of things, cause I would. but then I asked how much she loved me and she went on about ripples in ponds and the midnight sky, but seemed to avoid the question a bit. and I believe that in a relationship both people should be happy and willing to do anything for the other as long as the other takes into consideration the others happiness. cause love is not greedy. yet I dont know how to find out if she loves me in the same way I love her. weve been together for 7 months yesterday.