Should I dump my boyfriend when he hurts me?

I know my bf love me he’s absolutely wonderful he cares for me and constantly tells me that he loves me n cares for me .. he’s a mega softy and will do anything to make me happy. we haven’t been for long but so far so good i guess :] once he got afraid he was gonna loose me n cryed n held on saying he wont ever let me go … he tells me we are going to be forever coz hes never been in love with his ex’s and been with them for quite sum time but always lets me no that I’m the one for him and that hes never felt this strong about anyone n that I’m the world to him however it bothers me to no that wen he does upset or whatever …just little stirs i guess like grr the whole oh goin 2 see me boys every night issue n whatever (i wont stop him from seeing his mates but i think every night might b a bit oo much ) i have talked to him about n he has realized there was an issue but either way me don’t picture myself leaving him i mean i basically spend every day with him n never cheat on him but it worries me (because I’ve suffered in the past from depression .. along with being cheated in fucked around by guyz continuously) every time he might upset me i go in2 a whirlpool of ‘oh i don’t wanna b with him’ I’m gonna break up with him.. should i shouldn’t i n all this crap n it sometimes brings me to tears coz it drives me crazy but after a while wen things settle ill b like that so stupid i wanna stop thinking about it …. but its basically built in2 my system n I’m sick of thinking this way i need heap plz help guyz :( or gimme sum advice :( thankz

Answer #1

gurl i think if he realli takes all of it out on u..u sud talk to him frist but if he keeps doin it tell him that ur realation ship is on its last chance n if he loves u ..n cares abt u..n he will do anything for u ..he will..but if he dont i say dump his ass…cus no one deserves to be treaated lik trash n hes ur boi..ur lik god to him:)lol

Answer #2

im in the same boat! exactly the same! how old are u if u dont mind me asking, and have you actuallly been diagnosed with depression? x

Answer #3

Okay, simply this relationship is not helping you. I feel that you are needing more in your life and if he can’t do this for you and react rationally then you need to get out. I don’t know why people suffer through things that hurt them. I am in counseling with my wife and I hate it but I am trying to find a way to be happy with her while she is also happy. If this can’t be then we seperate and go our seperate ways. I love her like no other girl before. I have shared everything with her. I would still leave if I couldn’t be happy even though I still love her this much.

PS….. would you mind switching your profile photo so that there aren’t so many fingers pointing at us? The site owner might get miffed.

Answer #4

It sounds like you are fighting with your own thoughts. Maybe you should go see a therapist and get some professional help and guidance into working out wats behind the reasons you think this way. Becos it does sound like your relationship is fine, nothing very very serious going on just the usual fights couples have, but you are finding it harder to deal with. Maybe you need an outsiders oppinion on the relationship more in depth. If you need to talk please dont hesitate to funmail me.

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