Can long distance relationships really work?

im in a long distance relationship..I live in Luxembourg the guy lives in Athens..I love him..but..im only 14, could this really be love? do I even know what love is at such a young age? my feelings for him are so strong..but I havnt seen him for a year now..should I try and make it work? we tried to get over eachother after 9 months we both admitted we still loved eachother..my question is: can long-distance relationships really work?

Answer #1

It feels wonderful to be in love and of course your long distance relationship can survive. If you really love him and if he really loves you, that distance is as nothing. But you need to take care of your relationship too because your boyfriend is not angel but a human being. You need to be realistic that anything can happen.

You are very young. Don’t be so hasty. Prioritize your studies. Someone who truly loves waits and thinks of your welfare too.

If you don’t want any regrets, do all you can (without suffocating him :) ) to make your relationship work. If it doesn’t work and you have done all you can do ( i mean clean expressions of your love like keeping in touch through emails, phone calls, gestures of thoughtfulness etc.), then it isn’t really meant to be and you have no guilt feelings. You can fall in love again later on and charge it to experience.

If it’s meant to be then it’s your good fortune.

Answer #2

Yes they do work because I’m in one!I’m 14yrs old I live in tx and he lives in california and we meet over bebo kinda like myspace and we’ve been together for about a year now and I LOVE him with all my heart!yes love not lust!he’s da greatest boyfriend ever!

Answer #3

14 is a bit young and i dont know how old the guy is. But if your both mature about it and really both wanting to make it work you can make it work. If you want to make it work then do who knows he could be the right one for you.

Answer #4

YES! long distance relationships do work out. I live on the other side of the world from my husband . And the distance between us makes us realise how much we love, miss and mean to each other. We’ve been married for three years and only lived together for 2 weeks approximately.

When your in love you’ll know. It’s an emotion that cannot be expressed in words, yet can only be felt like the greatest high in the world.

On the other hand, just because you are distant from each other doesn’t mean you need to break up, your distance most likely will only strengthen the feelings and love you have for each other.

Call him if you can mail, or even text him if you can, i’m sure he’ll love to hear from you.

Answer #5

Long distance relationships do have the potential to work, but both parties have to be pretty mature. While I myself believe that love knows no age, 14 is a bit young to have such strong feelings. Maybe these feelings stem from something else; Do you have a problematic relationship with your dad? Do you have low self-esteem? If the answer to these ?’s is no, than it very well could be love. Just try to keep it in perspective. The good news is that if you’ve been together for so long, it sounds to me that this is more than just infatuation!! I’m sure that if you both stay on the smae page and are able to make sure that you are with eachother for the right reasons (b/c you care deeply for one another) that you guys will be fine. Good luck!!

Answer #6

Hunnie, long didtance relationships may be a hassel. But im not the one to talk. I have been talking to this guy that I am completely in love with for the past four years. He live in Laporte MN and I live in breckenridge mn that is a three hour drive. It may not seem like that long but to make up the time we spend talking on the phone, or on webcam. It feels like he is years away from me. We told eachother that we are going to hold on to what we have and keep moving along strong. So if you really trully do love this guy, NEVER let him go.

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