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Is it bad to have a plan for my life when I get of high school now at the age of 14??? And im guessing you wanting to know my plan? Well my man is in the 12th this year and he's waiting on me til I get out of high school then we want to get married and move somewhere nice and live our lives!!! Is that bad??? Any advice???
Agreed with the other posters -- while having a plan at any age isn't a bad thing, your plan isn't very realistic.
The reality is (and I know it seems impossible from where you are standing) that you will most likely have many serious relationships over the course of your life as you grow and (hopefully) expand your interests, knowledge, and horizons. By the time you are 25 or 30, you'll barely remember anything about who you were at 14.
Most importantly -- planning your life around anyone else is a recipe for disaster and a very lonely, depressing life. Live for yourself and your own goals and desires and work romance into that framework, the framework of a complete, healthy person. Relying on someone else to fill in your missing pieces hasn't led anyone to happiness in 30,000 years of human history.
It's not bad to have a life plan - although that is not a good one and not a realistic one.
Your man is in 12th grade - that would make him 17 or 18 years old while you are still only 14 years old. Your relationship is illegal since you are having sex (don't say your not, I've seen your other post).
Not only that - he is about to graduate. He is going to go to college most likely, meet new people, and have a whole new life. A life that you are not going to be able to be apart of because you are only 14 years old. You will grow apart and you will break up. Graduating high school and starting college is a huge change in someones life - and there is no way for you to keep up.
Its not bad, but also know that not everything you want is nessecarily going to happen, or you may have to take different steps to get to where you want. but having a gameplan is better then not having a clue.
as far as you and you man, I doubt hes going to wait for you. Sorry hun, but.. Hes going off to college, and you're going to be in high school for what... 3-4 more years atleast.
Maybe ;eave the guy out and then make a plan. haha
It's not bad...just childish.
That's not how real life works. Are either of you going to college? Where will you live? How will you afford...you know, anything? Do either of you have jobs?
There's no reason to get married right out of high school because you won't know each other that soon..at all.
From what you're saying it's kind of evident that you have a lot of work to do on your decision making skills.
Mandyloo has all the right answers. Take what she's written into consideration.
