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V have been in relationship 4 around 2 years now...we have drastically different natures but there is something that ignites the spark with in us and we have been having this relationship with all the ups and downs..we have had a lots of fights in these 2 years.both of us are very short tempered.talking about the starting I dint want the relation as I have been cheated by ma x (he was two-timing) for whom I was crazy like anything.we had cross all the limits because I trusted him more than I trust anyone else. But when I meet dis guy after his continous persistence I agreed, mean while he did lots of musshy things for me,he made me meet his parents,he talked with ma parents etc etc..but now he seems to have changed.earlier after every small fights we had I used to come to a conclusion that we werent compatible and lets part ways.he would always try to convince by doing something or the other.but now things have changed,after crossing all the limits(which I decided I would never let nybody else to do after been ditched by my x,but somehow this guy convinced me for every damn thing)now he has totally changed.now he feels I m been very possesive etc etc and now after every small fights he calls the relation quits.this time he wants to end the relation bcz I dint inform him that I was going to market(I dint do d sme bcz v had a fyt)m very mch distrubed bcz of same.I dun find ny reason in this.also I have caught him adding and chating with new girls..he deletes the conversation he havez so that I dont read d sme.m very tensed as to what is the solution to same and what should I do..I feel like shooting all the guys on this earth...everybodyz same...please guide me...
I hated myself for a long time because of how guys made me feel...but TRUST ME it is not worth it. Do not hate yourself. You have a lot to give and if this guy can't see that, then he's not worth your time. I would say he wanted a relationship in the beginning, but now he is unsure of what he wants. I was also in a relationship where we fought EVERY single day and we were engaged. We had been together for 6 years, but I had to end it because I knew I wasn't happy and neither was he. It's hard to say if your boyfriend is cheating, talking to other girls is normal. He may be deleting the conversations because he knows you will look for them and read them. It doesn't necessarily mean anything bad, just that he needs his own privacy. However, for him to argue with you about not telling him where you are going...that is VERY controlling and possessive. Just like he needs his own privacy, so do you. I would not stay in a controlling relationship if I were you. Not to sound negative, but things usually do not get better. This is the way he is, and you don't need to put up with that. You cannot change people, no matter how hard you try (I learned that). So, I would talk to him, see how that goes, and if he starts to be controlling and tries to argue then I would end it. You need someone who will respect you and love you.
It's not your fault if a guy cheats on you, they do so because they are selfish b*stards who only think about the moment instead of the future.
He probably though he was ready for a commitment and then when all the conflicts kept happening he decided it wasn't worth it. Cut your losses and move on. Not all guys are like this.
but why did he then meet ma parents and made me meet his parents???if he wasnt ready for everything then why did he made his parents tok to ma parents???after crossing all the limits he has realised that he doesnt want this relationship...??dis hurts a lot...I have started hating my own self...feel cheated for the second time...
Not every guy is like that. Obviously, this boy isn't ready for this relationship. You really should think about moving on and forgetting about him.
