How do I deal with insecurity about my looks?

I can honestly say I have never met a person who was happy about the way they looked in a photograph. To others, they might look absolutely gorgeous, but all the photographed one sees are flaws. Amblessed is correct…we all have insecurities.

I bet you’re just fine!

To reiterate what dot1128 said, we’re always the most critical of ourselves. Just remember to relax a little. It may seem kinda corny, but maybe practice smiling in front of a mirror, or posing with the kind of look you want in a photo. Memorise how it feels, and then when someone whips out a camera, you’re prepared! Another option is to take a series of really goofy photos of yourself- pull funny faces, cross your eyes, scrunch up your lips… sometimes just looking at those and having a wee giggle can make you feel better.

as a guy, let me tell you this: it doesn’t really matter.

now i realize i don’t speak for all guys. there are i’m sure lots of guys who won’t even talk to a girl if she’s doesn’t look like paris hilton or jessica alba (insert stupid celebrity here)

of course, no one wants to be with someone they aren’t attracted to, and attraction is important in a relationship. but take it from me… if you think you’re hot, other people will too. i’ve met girls before who i didn’t think were too attractive, but they put themselves out there, with confidence, and they obviously like themselves, they are comfortable with themselves and most of all… THEY think they’re hot. and then a weird thing happens… you start to think they’re hot, too!

but ya, i don’t think there’s a lot of people who are 100% happy with the way they look. it’s like hearing your voice recorded and played back to you. most ppl cringe cuz it sounds “weird,” but our friends and family hear our voices like that every day! we’re just super critical of ourselves, it’s natural.

a long time ago i used to worry about my nose. i thought it was too big and that there was a bump in it (which there is) and that i should get a nose job and have it smoothed out, ya know? but i have had more than a few girls tell me that they like my nose. without me asking about it. they just out of the blue say, “i like your nose.”

that’s the weird thing. whatever you physical characteristic you hate about yourself, there are probably lots of people out there who find it attractive, because everyone in the world has a different definition of what’s attractive. so if you got surgery and “fixed it,” you’d be screwing yourself over!

isn’t that weird? lol

i think it is

I agree with everyone else who answered!

It’s amazing how some people perceive themselves in photographs. I was watching America’s Next Top Model recently and several of the contestants thought they looked hideous in their photo shoots and I’m thinking, “Dang! Wish I looked that hideous!”

These gals were stunning, but they just didn’t see it.

Your reactions are perfectly normal.