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Should I pursue my love for the boy next door?

I have been neighbors with the same guy for over 10 years now. we grew up together, and we were really close until the past 2 years. we were always very flirty toward each other and even after he got in a relationship he tried to kiss me and as bad as I wanted to kiss him I knew it wasnt right. we started to grow apart because we were growing up and now I never see him anymore. I noticed how strong my feelings were for him after we started to seperate and I told him, but he told me that he was with this girl at the moment. so for the past year and a half they have been together and everyday I have had hope that maybe things would change and we would be together but it hasnt. like I said I have been stuck on him for 2 years and I have tried EVERYTHING to get over him. I have had a lot of boyfriends thinking that I could like them just as much as I do him but no matter what I do it all goes back to him and I miss him and just want to be with him. something inside keeps telling me to hold on to him but I know its time to let him go but I just dont know how to. does anybody have advice on whether I should give up on him or keep hope that maybe oneday things will change? if you can help please do…

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Answer #1

I am in the same prediciment as you are in. I am in love with my best friend. After the first time we messed around I thought that maybe he felt the same way towards me, but when I told him how I felt he just said you are one of my closest friends. Okay so I tried to set my feelings aside and still be his best friend. Then one day we got drunk and had sex. I was confused i didn't know what to think. Then he didn't call me, I would call him and everything would seem fine like nothing had happened. Then when we finally saw each other again a month later we had sex again. I was in heaven I thought he finally wants to be with me. Then I saw him once or twice, but it was just like we were best friends still. Two weeks later I saw him at a party with a girl. It broke my heart. I figured he didn't want to be with me like that but I didn't want anyone else to have him if I couldn't have him. So now after that slap in the face, I am trying to realize that he is not a good guy for me nor is he a good friend. So I haven't spoken to him in weeks. I am trying to get over him as much as i can. It's hard but we must remember that we didn't do anything wrong, you can't control your own feelings of love, and you certainly can't control another person's feelings, so we have let it be "what's meant to be will be"

Answer #2

"does anybody have advice on whether i should give up on him or keep hope that maybe one day things will change? if you can help please do… "

Yes, you should go on with YOUR life and leave him to his. If this is meant to be–it will be. And it will happen down the line. That doesn't mean you have to sit around 'waiting'for him. He's not waiting for you. Get yourself in gear and find a way to enjoy your life NOW. Tomorrow is promised to no one–and you need to use your today's to your full benefit.

As for how…it's like anything else you want to 'quit.' It takes time and energy. It won't be easy because thinking about him has become a habit for you. But when you have him=thoughts that make you want to sit back and be a spectator instead of a participator, then in your head say, "Cancel that. He has his life; I have mine." And then go out and do something for yourself.

Remember I'm not saying this is easy. But I'm sure sitting around 'waiting' wears on you too. Try it…

God Bless and Good Luck!

Answer #3

i think if u really love him and he loves u then ya should go out.then u guyz will b the best couple if u both love each other.just be sure he loves u.:)

Answer #4

I think iif you really like him and since you have known him for a while he would understand if you talked to him about your feelings how you have liked him for such a long time. Since he is with another girl he probably wouldnt want to get with you but i think if he knows your feelings maybe he would dump his girl for you…or maybe yyou could just force him into having sex with you and then hell definently dump her hahahaa..just kidding

Answer #5

lol hah the last part is funny about forcing him to have sex is really funny yo.:)

Answer #6

that was really great advice. thank you so much for your help, that was exactly what i needed to hear. thanx again

Answer #7

i would of said dont give up but it seems like hes to into the other girl r hes just to blind to notice u love him. try to give up on him cuz it doesnt look like anything will advance. u can try talking to him again one more time and ask him if he would want to be more than friends r if its possible.

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