What to do if I want to have an affair?

If you are thinking about cheating, and feeling smothered, I’d suggest couples counseling. Cheating on your girlfriend (yu’ve been together EIGHT YEARS? why arent you married?) will only starta cycle. More cheating, feeling ashamed, isolation between her and the kids, etc. Please, I’ve been cheated on, dont do this to your family. Get help or get out. THey love you and need you. Some chick off the street is going to be a one night stand and nothing more,m and if it is more, will drive more of a wedge between your gf and you. Dont do this to her, to your babies who think you can do nothing wrong in the world, dont do this to yourself. Go get some help, fix your relationship before its too late. If you cant do this, than spare her, and get out of it. That wont be easy, but it will a million times easier than shoving an affair in her face (whether you tell her or not she will find out eventually) and expecting her to deal with that and the end of you two. You both obviously have something special together or you wouldnt have given eachother eight years of your lives and two beautiful babies. If you cheat, you will regret it.