I dont know what to do

I’m sorry to hear that you were raped when you were younger. Do you talk about it with your parents, counselors, guardians? It absolutely is a player in why you can’t maintain a healthy relationship. Take care of yourself. It is hard to get rid of the trust issue, it will take time. I would suggest not going for the bad boys, go for the boys that you could see yourself with forever and that are patient and understanding. Do not bring up the rape into conversation unless you are very serious with someone, and sure that they can be accepting and understanding of what you have been through. I would suggest talking about your rape with someone that is older and that loves you, get it out. Then write down things that you want in a relationship and work hard on it. Maintaining a healthy relationship will not appear just by htinking about it, it will take you a lot of work. Learn to trust again as hard as you can, but make sure you aren’t trusting the bad guys!! Allow a sweetheart into your heart, make sure they take you to dinner at least twice before you have sex. Test your limits!

That’s not how psychology works.

If you were raped, and you know that being raped could be the reason that you can’t ‘maintain a healthy relationship’, then that’s not the reason. That’s not how it works.

learn to trust a new guy, like wait a few good months to see what hes really like and then go ahead. tell yourself that he loves you and you should love him and only him back. guys can get hurt as easily as girls.

when I was raped my mother just said that I wanted it and to stop complianing, me and her dont have a good relationship. its really hard me to open up to a new guy when we start going out. this is the first time I talked about this with anyone. I wrote a couple poems about what happened and that helped alittle bit. I thought about seeing a theripst but I dont know a good one