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I can't tell my parents im pregnant

I am 21 years old, 4 months pregnant, and a correctional officer at a maximum security prison. I make good money and am in a committed relationship with the father of my unborn child and we live together. Although I am on my own and making my own money I still can’t tell my mom and dad that im pregnant! Both of my sister have three children but one is married and one is engaged and both are successful, but im the baby girl and was the one expected to be different. At first it was a hard thing to swallow (being pregnant), but now it is the joy of my life and the motivation to acquire more. I am so in love with my unborn child. After moving back from Cali pursuing acting and modeling, I came back to my homestate and never had plans to have a kid. I was a spoiled brat and didn’t want any. And now I have my own baby. Its just so hard because my parents expect so much of me and my mom is sooo judgemental. I haven’t talked to her for weeks because all I talk about is my baby and I don’t want to slip up. Im daddys little girl and don’t know how to tell him either. Im happy, but if I make them unhappy it’ll put a stifle in my own happiness. What to do!

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Answer #1

You’re “expected” to be different. We cannot be what others expect us to be and that’s all there is to it. You will never be happy or fulfilled if you spend your life trying to be what others expect of you. You are happy for this baby. You are of legal age, you have a job, you’re in a relationship. What more could they want for you? I too did not want my first daughter to have children at a young age, but she got pregnant and had her baby when she was 19, just a couple weeks before turning 20. She was with her high school sweetheart. She is now 25, married to the same man, two kids, own their own house and doing very well. If she would have listened to me, her life would be totally different and I would not have my beautiful grandchildren. I know it’s hard, I know you are probably scared and think you are letting them down, but you have to tell them. Happiness comes from the inside, not from outside influences. If they are unhappy with the situation, you need to move on and focus on your own family now. Once you have a child, nothing else matters. That child comes first. You just need to bite the bullet and do it. Good luck to you, and God Bless.

Answer #2

I think you should go ahead and tell your parents, normally if your happy about the baby the should be too and besides, you are old enough to make your own decisions my sister had a baby when she was 19 and my parents didnt care too much yours might be the same

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