I Can't Stop Thinking About Him/ Does He Like Me?

hi, I need some advice there is a guy I’ve been seeing around school for about a year. he is an IT guy at my college and attends another college. when I first saw him last year I had a crush on someone else so I didnt pay attention but he always looked at me when we passed in the hall and he would try to catch my eye. now a year later I have fallen for him, I cant stop thinking about him, cant concentrate on school thats how bad it is. he still looks at me makes eye contact, holds the door for me whenever im behind him. just last week as he was holding the door for me he turns around to make eye contact as I was passing through the door, it was so powerful I cant describe it. he has told his friend about me because everytime his friend sees me he looks at me, I’ve noticed him walking past same places I hang out at school. and he has helped my friend a couple times with computer problems so now he looks at her like he wants to say something, or he wants her to talk to him. but my friend doesnt feel comfertable about it so she tries to avoid him. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! I dont have anyone that will talk to him for me, im extremly shy, I get really nervous and forget everything I wanna say to him when I see him. I dont know why he wont talk to me! do you think that he does or doesnt like me from what I described? I fantasize about being able to talk to him and asking him out but im not sure about his true feelings. I know his cell number because its on the directory. oh and he knows my major because he purposely walked past by me with a girl in the same major but 2 years ahead of me, I dont know her, he never hangs out with her, but idont know if he walked pastby me to make me jelous or to communicate to me that we have some things in common.. idont know! im trying to tell all the details so you can help me. when we pass eachother in the hall he tries to sortof smile, and he has said hi like once. im going to be spending more time on campus in the next 2 years..I think about what if he leaves the job and I never get to talk to him..I think about him a lot I cant wait for the days that im on campus so I can see him. oh my friend is willing to help but not by talking to him in person but only by emailing him(she also works on campus) she want to write to him and say she know somone interested in him, is he interested? (I didnt think it was a good idea.) what should I do? please help!I dont wanna stop thinking about him. I wanna chance with him. because if I dont,I will not get over what might have happend, or did he like me? because I find myself thinking about old crushes and asking myself if I only knew how it would have worked out. im really shy, I try to fight it but its hard, my hear start beating really fast, I cant breath, I start stutering, or look away when we make eye contact. please! help! tell me if there is anything that is not clear, I will try to explain. thank you! I think iposted in the wrong catagory I dont know how to switch.

Answer #1

polite compliments are the best and safest way to say “come hither, you sexy stud!”. Start by noticing his clothes or some other feature (eyes?) that you like about him. Just be polite and friendly, it never hurts because everyone loves compliments.

Answer #2

I’ve been in a similar situation buddy. There is this guy..I like him so much…I think I might even love him. I still do. But I use past tense because I’ve liked him for a few years now. But NOW, at this point, things are different. Because as I see it now, just like you see some characteristics and behaviors of the guy and can take it as a fact that he likes you (which I’m pretty sure he does honey, I’m going through the same. I used to be soo nervous, like you, around him. But now…when I really make myself to, I suddenly find myself – the shy, quiet girl – STARTING a conversation with him. Just treat him like you’d treat any other friend. Any other girl friend. Ask him how he is..how his day was..compliment him..say something interesting you’ve done..ask about HIM (guys like this one). All I see here is you putting too much pressure on yourself, my friend. He is just another individual like you. He likes you. He doesn’t talk to you because he is shy..believe it or not..just like YOU. Be strong and start a conversation with him one day in the halls. This not only raises your status in his eyes, but also opens doors to a wonderful future for your relationship. Best of Luck =)

Answer #3

I really like this boy and his friends Are like he tc me he likes you and he is always looking at me from all the girls and even if I ask him he says no.But I saw that he like is always like teasing girls and when he talks to me it is like it is a new person and all my friends say like oh I was behind him and he said “I think $/!&! Is so hot”and I like get mad he doesn’t say anything he is to shy wht should I do please help

Answer #4

I like this guy I saw him the other day we have gotn 2 know each other for about a year and a half I cnt stop thinking about him hes ever so sweet one of the sweetest guy I have ever come accross hes such a gentlemen but after the day I saw him he texted me sayin im giving my fne 2 my mate for a couple of days dont text and stufff I dont no what this is supposed 2 mean because I am seriousli missin im so much I dont no what to do =[ Help..

Answer #5

My GOODNESS. Well from what you say, it sounds like he’s trying awfully hard to get you to show him if you like him. Honey, you are far too stressed about this. Why do you get so nervous? Afraid of being rejected or of making a fool of yourself? Who isn’t? But if you think about it, if he has been trying so hard to get your attention, one little silly think you MIGHT say to him while talking isn’t going to change his mind if he likes you. You just have to force yourself, but relax! You have lots of things going for you, you should be confident and go up and talk to him! Don’t you want to know, once and for all, what’s going on in his head? ASK. It’s not as hard as it seems, once you do it you’ll feel sooo much better. Sometimes you just have to say what the hell and go for it. Good LUCK!

Answer #6

Maybe it’s a little bit too late to post my question three years apart from yours, but I am kind of in the similar situation now, and I really want to know what happened next to you both? Did you talk to him?How are you doing now? If there is any chance you would see my questions, could you give me an answer? Thank you!

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