How do you get rid of a memory?

I agree with both of the comments above mine. Im 23 years old as yourself and I was raped when I was 6 years old. I havent forgotten about it, but Im not telling you this to depress you… But the thing is… It has depressed me for a long time and my family never found out. They still dont know about it.

Homophobia is normal and as you know, it exists amongst men and women. In your case, it is reasonable and pretty much expected. However, as mentioned in the comment above mine, not all homosexual men are rapists. Im sure you do realize that already. What happened to you is unfair, I know. What you should do is go see a therapist. I dont know if you would be comfortable in a support group, I have a feeling you wouldnt be. But if you are, contact them.

I personally never saw a therapist and just… lived with it I suppose. I know that not every person with the same job as my rapist is also a rapist. Im nice and civil to them, not nervous around them. My rapist was the guy who drove me to school everyday. Today, I dont let any of my siblings take rides alone with an adult and I’ve managed to convince my parents to not let them take the bus. But that is how it affects my life now. I just know that what happened was never my fault.

hugs Emotive

thank u all for ur support it has helped me immensely, my fiancee is helping get over it very well and we plan to get married next august…thanks again Paul x

You really can’t erase memory. Over time you can put it in its apropriate context.

When I was in my 20’s I worked for a very dishonest Korean. Everyone I met in his family were swindlers. I became prejudiced thinking that all Koreans were like this. Long story short, he left the country owing me 3 paychecks and a lot of other people a lot of money (several lawsuit settlements against him). Years later I worked with Koreans who were exactly the oppsite; honest, hard-working, thoughtful, and generous to a fault. After I dealt with more Koreans and learned that like any group there are good people and bad people I was no longer prejudiced against them.

Your fear of gays is entirely normal and understandable at this point. Hopefully time and experience will allow you to see gays as individuals rather than associate them with the person who raped you.

Dear pauloz2007, What you are going through is terrible but you are not alone. There is help for you at counselling. This is a deep routed problem and needs therapy. You are ready for it now because you are asking for the help. You can see how this traumatic experience is effecting all your relationships so it is time for help. Call your nearest health clinic for information or see your family doctor for a list of places that offer counselling. This is a situation that is beginning to manifest and unless you get professional help with it you will suffer needlessly. It’s time to end the cycle. Sue…good luck

im 15 and I want to get raped by a gay guy, thats just me

the only thing that i can tell you as a christian find a good church that deals with the whole manto tell you have to forgive let go and let God heal you where you are hurting iknow that it is not easy but i know my God will give you the strenght to over come any thing that you have face in your life and remember healing comes from within be bless and allow my GOd to heal you.he will get rid of the memory for you.

Yes, tell the police.

Just stay away from gay people. thats the best way. really