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How do I tell him without hurting him??

Ok so its a very long story, I have this boyfriend that I really like and then there was this dude that everyone kept hassling me to go out with. So I told his friend to tell him that he has to ask me out first. Now I said this because he never askes girls out so I thought I was safe. But then he did ask and I couldnt say no because then it would look like I made him ask me out so I could reject him.

Now I have to break up with him because I am double timing and I feel really bad. My friend told me to write him a letter telling him everything and hopefull he will understand. I am just wondering who thinks this is a good idea or if you have any better ways so that I can go through this with hurting him as less a possible. I dont care if I get hurt I just worry about him. PLEASE HELP!!!

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Answer #1

Well with out knowing the guy I can’t give you a perfect answer, but I will try and give you a few suggestions. From what it sounds like, just guessing here, that he is somewhat of a shy guy. If that’s the case then it probably took him quiet a while to muster up the courage to even ask you out. So know matter what if you break up with him he’ll be devastated, he won’t show it but it’ll probably be killing him inside. But what you definetley need to do is actually break up with him in person. Getting a note, or a text, or a phone call or whatever else other than actually doing it in person, is the worst way you could possibly break up with someone. Unless they’re abusive, then it’s totally fine to do it. So in a nutshell 1. Do it in person. 2. Be as nice as you possibly can. 3. A friendly hug after the break up never hurts.

Answer #2

just tell him that your friends made you do it it wasnt your fault or anything your friends were putting pressure on you so you told his friends into asking you so just that your friends made you ask his friends to make him ask you.

Answer #3

right just tell him all the truth that is the best thing to do. he must really like you to have the guts to finally ask. the sooner you tell him the truth the better because then he wont have his hopes up too long =P

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