how do I stop having sex?

Since your body has no had a chance to fully mature yet then the desire to have sex for you is more of a psychological issue than a physical one. Women typically hit their sexual peak in their 30’s where their hormones are like a teenaged boy. Yours should not be. If they are then you need to talk to your Gyno very candidly and explain. You might have a hormonal imbalance of some sort.

But if the need to have sax is because you want to be liked, accepted or whatever; if you feel more beautiful, important, loved only when you are saying yes then you need to talk to someone. Could be self esteem issues or any other host of issues that without extensive talking to understand your life and your history with relationships that were important to you it’s hard to get to the root of the problem.

Regardless of what you chose to do I beg you to be safe. Use protection. Have condoms and insist they are used. Do not fall for the crap that they don’t like how they feel or that they make him lose sensitivity. If he respects you then he will do it. Get yourself on some birth control and get tested for STDs. Don’t become another statistic. Do not risk your health or your life. Do not become a teen having babies because you didn’t protect yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you honey. Don’t throw it away.

If the guy you are with can’t respect you enough to consider your health and the repercussions of sex then he does NOT deserve to be with you. At 14 you are far too young to be into all this. Enjoy being a kid. Life only gets harder when you do get to be an adult. It might not seem like that now but it’s true. Not to mention it’s illegal.

That might not seem like much but if you are ever caught then the issue of statutory rape will come up and lives can be ruined, yours included. If he is 16 or older he could be labeled as a sex offender and end up on a registry. You could be sent to a State girl’s home. Respect yourself and say no. If you seriously, chemically have an imbalance and it’s diagnosed by your Gyno then you can take care of things on your own in the privacy of your own room. You would not be the first teenaged girl to masturbate just most will not admit it.

But please, please…be safe, be smart, and talk to someone (a hotline, a minister, a counselor, a trusted teacher, parent, anyone. )