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how do I quit being commit-a-phobic?

I dont know what is wrong with me. I’ve known this guy mike for like five months and he is a great guy. we used to work together and got to be great friends and he asked me out. I said yes, but im really having issues with it. the last guy I was in a ‘serious’ relationship with really threw me under the bus, but it’s been over a year since then, so you think I’d be fine, right? but its hard to say out loud that we are dating and I havent yet called him my boyfriend. I really do like him and I know it hurts his feelings that I have trouble saying that we are together, but I dont know how to get over it. any suggestions?

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I’ve been in a similar situation. It takes time to get over, but it helps to tell your boyfriend that your trust issues arnt due to him. He can either help you work through that or at least not take it personally. Eventually, you have to accept that no two guys are the same and that there are some genuinely good guys out there.

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