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How do I keep my once wonderful relationship continue on?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and we are a great couple, we are the type of couple that can have a very great future together. I love him so much and he makes me so happy and im always laughing. We are both on the same ship together in the Navy so it makes time together a crunch. My boyfriend gives hints that he wants a future with me like meeting his parents and moving home after the Navy, but recently he tried to leave me, because I had a gut feeling that something was wrong so I asked, he told me he sometimes thought about being single and he felt like he cared to much about me and not himself and what he wants. It hurt me to here this because I didnt think he felt this way, because we get along very well. Now I dont know how I can go about making our relationship last. We have only a few weeks between a couple months out to sea and then a 7 month deployment. I was thinking about letting him be to his self for the next month we are out and let him find me if he wants to talk. Give him space. Let him think.

What should I do to keep my soulmate?

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Answer #1

Honestly - if you love him, dont let him go without a fight. So many couples give up and say they are going to just take time apart - and that’s where they loose it and they don’t get back together. A “break” is just an excuse to be with other women and to find someone else, it’s not healthy for a relationship.

Answer #2

Actually, I am a woman in a relationship, but on the other side of the problem. I love my boyfriend but feel I’m not living ‘my’ life when I’m with him, and so am considering leaving. I agree with not giving up without a fight - my boyfriend has been very strong to keep the relationship together. But it must be done carefully. Be strong in expressing to your boyfriend that you love him, that you’re there for him, and what your needs are. However, you should let him be free to make a decision to do what he thinks best for him. He may not choose to meet your needs. In that case, let him go. He is not ready for this relationship. I believe if someone is given the responsibility and awareness of choice, that they will choose what is best. Treat his decision with respect and love. That love and respect will come back to you.

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