How do I find out if I am a natural Domme?

Sorry, I’m not into the BDSM lifestyle, so I can’t give you any specific punishments or scenarios from experience. It sounds like you’re new to it, so I’m curious is it his first time trying BDSM also? Regardless, focus less on impressing him with the vast BDSM knowledge you apparently don’t have, and focus more on the pleasure of playing out this fantasy you share.

I recommend you both watch some BDSM porn together. Try looking for ideas in there that seem to turn you both on a lot. Mimic scenes that YOU guys think are hot.

As for being a natural domme, I think the best way to find that out is to try playing the dom role and see if it turns you on. If not, try sub. There’s nothing wrong with trial and error in sex, because as long as you’re both being open and honest, you end up truly being pleased :)

Sex is always awkward sometimes, so just focus on having fun, even if you mess up, or say something dumb, or realize you’re sub instead of dom.