How do I deal with mean step mom and get dad back?

Ever since my dad married this one lady she has been really sour to me and my sister- she would yell and cuss at us and she would scare my sister so bad that she would get sick to her stomach. My dad rarely calls me anymore and has not visited me for 3 years, I feel like I cant depend on my dad as a support anymore. They have 6 kids. What should I do, I miss my dad.

Answer #1

Haaay. yeah I have a stepmom and she’s a beyotch. But the fact is your dad is still your dad. I mean what you have to do seriously is to get him on the phone (YES TAKE CHARGE) and tell him how you feel. Because I use to have a stepdad who I hattted. but I never told my mom. and the day I finally told my mom she relized what it was doing to here kids and she made a change. you cant be scarred of your stepmom. You cant. You have to stand your ground like non-other because really youve known your dad longer and she cant take him. I understand but really you have to tell him straight up. like Your wife is mean. She scares (your sister) til she’s sick to her stomach and the fact is dad your not being a dad. When have you been there for me?? just beee reaaal. it works. oh yeah and dont listen to that one lady that told you your dad doesnt care for you. because he does. just you have to show him you care too.

Answer #2

I not very sure but I am going through the same thing and think you should listen to carsen(stepmoms are MEAN!!!)but I have a dad and my stepmom makes him hit me 4 no reason and if he dont she throws stuff at him

Answer #3

First of all…do you live with your step mom? If sooo…

Sweetheart, I hate to put it this way to you, but your father left, could it be possible that he does not care? I know it’s a tuff reality to face (been there) and you feel alone, but there is help. If your step mother is that abusive, then you need to seek help. I know that this is also quite a scary situation to deal with and go through, but there are people who are there for you. NO CHILD should ever have to live with a life of abuse! AND YES, EVEN IF SHE ISN’T PHYSICALLY HITTING YOU, IT’S STILL CONSIDERED ABUSE (CALLED EMOTIONAL ABUSE)

If you don’t not live with her then there is really nothing you can do except ask your father to please not have her around you or leave you with her. Hopefully he cares enough to respect your feelings.

Talk to a counselor in your school and they can help you if you are living with her. If your father isn’t willing to take you in (or perhaps another family member ) then your only other option other may be foster care. Foster homes really aren’t as bad as people portray them to be and you and your sister can live together with a loving family who will provide you with the type of love and support you desperately need! There may even be one in your area so you don’t have to switch schools.

My heart goes out to you I wish I could help you more, but you have to take that first step…Check to see if there is a catholic charities in your area, they take in “runaway” youth and provide you with a safe dwelling for up to one month, but there main goal is to try to help your family work through their problems. If not though …

PLEASE PLESE PLEASE don’t run away! It will only make things worse and you could end up being placed on PINS and in a detention facility, which is a terrible place (kid jail so to speak) GOOD LUCK HUN and please keep me posted!

Answer #4

I think you need to call you dad and set a time where the two of you can get together. When you meet up you need to tell him exactl how you feel. Tell him you dont feel like you can lean on him anymore and stuff like that. Just make sure he doesnt bring her and its just you two.

Answer #5

thats a heck of trouble.. I have a stepdad, but I know him as my father. mom and ‘father’ got married when I was 6. im 13 now… we rarely get into trouble, but in your situation, im really upset 4 u.. must be a hard, unfair life. but dont dont run away. that’ll make things worse. I cant help you there, sorry.

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