How can I stop being so shy in the bedroom?

You just need to learn to be confident about yourself and how you look. But I imaging you know this already… When you’re with your guy n’ ready to get going, just think about how long you too have been together and keep the thought that he loves you n’ that you can talk with him about what kind of kinky stuff you’d wanna try, and hear him out what kind of kinky stuff he wanna try. It’s alright to be kinky if you feel like it… If you get a kinky thought you wanna try, then close your eyes, take a deep breath and just shoot it out… it will feel wrong n’ uncomfortable to say it at first, but if you practice it you’ll probably get more used to it after a while.

Some times when I am about to write something to people I know, stuff I know will hurt them, or stuff I am afraid they’ll get mad about, I really just wanna keep it to myself and pretend there’s is nothing, cause I am too afraid or shy to say it to them… I always end up closing my eyes and press enter… then I can look at the screen and regret it as much as I want, but still keep the thought… oh well… what’s done is done… It may not have much relation to your issue, but I’ve gotten more confident about (not only writting) telling my mind to people, and await the take whatever response I might get. That’s what I mean when I suggest you to just close your eyes, take a deep breath and then just let it out, tell about what fantasies you’d like to try with your guy

hope it’ll help ya :)

lack of confidence = lack of kinkiness. Until you get more confidence [which takes time and perserverance] you should find a little trick to loosen up little by little. There are two ways to tackle this, the slow way and the fast way:

1. The slow way- Acknowledge to your man that you are insecure and admit it, in fact be PROUD of it. Then take little little steps by doing one thing about 2 steps outside of your box, then something 4 steps outside the box, and so on until you are on a whole new continent of boxes, uh metaphorically speaking :D
2. The fast way- Just force yourself to let go. Forget about the looks and just go CRAZY. FREAK OUT! I highly recommend the song ‘’Born To Be Wild’’ to get in this kinda mood. Know in your mind and soul your boyfriend will love that and just be crazy! If you ever feel insecure in a moment just keep remembering he will be surprised in an extremely good way :D! Bring out da funk; bring out your inner sexy. You know you have it! You just gotta use it woo!