How can I care less about people's opinion?

How do I stop caring what people think of me??? I get soo guilty when I think I’ve intruded upon someone. Though I probably haven’t. I can’t help but take everthing personally. It sucks. I’ m afraid of being hated and feel like every time I put myself ‘out there’ I am rejected. I only have a few close friends and meeting new people is soo hard for me. I always come off as a btch when I meet people ( I’ve been told). Either that or completely forgotten. What the hell do I do? How do I get confidence, minus the btchyness

Answer #1

You don’t have to be around people who think of you in a negative way. I know that it’s hard to be yourself and find people to meet and make friends with since it’s very frightning and you don’t know what people are going to think of you. Just try to be polite to those around you if they say anything negative and if they start saying things negatively about you, just nod your head and smile. Ignore them if they say things behind your back. Those people aren’t worthy to be around with. If they don’t like you, that’s too bad! you don’t need to care for those people. You can choose your friends. Also, I want to add, we all take things personally and that goes for me too. I know it’s hard to let go of that, but, if you just tune those people out, you should be alright.

Answer #2

We all have a tendency to view the world as centered around us and that, therefore, everything we do affects the world. Not true.

Our own little space in the world does revolve around us and is affected by our actions and decisions. We have to learn that most opinions of others are not life-altering to our existence. What is most important is how we view ourselves and if we are comfortable with our self.

Don’t worry about how you come across to others. Just try to be polite, interested in them and concerned with what they are saying. Remember, they are in the same insecurity boat that you are.

Also, it is easier to make friends by listening to them rather than making them listen to you.

The more you pay attention to others, the more others are going to pay attention to you.

As time goes by you will be developing greater self confidence and better self esteem.

        Simply a Rose to brighten your day,         And maybe lessen the cares in your way;         And also, too, to help you to know,         That in knowing you, many others grow!

Answer #3

“How do I stop caring what people think of me???” — just think that they doesnt care about you it works for me and as long as you’re doing nothing wrong then why bother…

I know being yourself is just so overrated but it works darling..

Answer #4

Well, you noticed it yourself, so part of the problem is solved. Addressing something you want to change in your personality is very hard :) I don’t fully agree with the poster above. If you want to change something in your personality it is possible to do that, but it takes time and effort! Just remember, that people you don’t know can be equally ‘scared’ of meeting ‘new’ people (you :P) as well ;)

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