How do I get through my boyfriend's deployment?

P.S. I wish him the best of performance and fortune during his deployment, and that he makes it back unharmed.

ignore the people who seem to be unhappy themselves and are bent on making you think negative things. My husband is deployed to and we have a very strong marriage. Its hard no matter what, but the key is having that trust in each other. If he has not given you a reason to think otherwise, dont let yourself go there. Your biggest defeat will be yourself if you allow it to be. They dont have a lot of time over there and as far as the address, he probably used myspace as a tool so he could get mail from friends as well as family. Being a military wife/girlfriend might very well be the most satisfying job (and yes, it is a job) that you might have. There is a great sense of pride and satisfaction that goes into loving a soldier. I hate being away from my husband, but 2 main things you learn is 1) the little things that you would typically take for granted, for example holding hands, watching tv together, snuggling up to each other, being able to touch them while your talking to them (basically things other people might say you obsess about, because they dont know) are things you realize count the most and 2) Deployments make a strong relationship stronger. The reader who responded with “he is the one that should be worried about you cheating” has got issues. Anybody who wants to read this and just run off at the mouth like that with a negative thought probably is not happy themselves. Another reader commented on this and I agree, make sure you keep them very updated on everything that is going on. Sometimes they feel like they might be loosing some control on what might be going on at home, so keeping them updated keeps them involved. Another reader said Send him letters or cards ALL THE TIME. Emails are good, but also send stuff in the mail. They might not always be able to get online, but love to have letters. I send my husband a card or letter every single day, and no this is not my first deployment, I did that for the first one to. One more thought for you and this is something that I use is dont let anybody convince you that a relationship can not last any amount of time without cheating. Like I said, if you have a strong relationship, your love can withstand distance and time. It might seem like he cant go a year with that intimate touch of somebody, but if you can do it there is no reason to beleive he cant do it to. Dont distrust him on just a gut feeling because there will be times when you dont hear from him for a while and you cant go assuming he is messing around every time. You will make yourself crazy. You can do it, it will be ok. Like I said, dont let anybody convince you with negative thoughts. You know him better than some stranger does and people who are not in a happy relationship will try to bring you down.

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Connect with other women who have had there men deployed. My friend is pregnant and she cant see her husband, she is 21 and completely heart broken, its her first pregnancy. She gets together with other women who have there men gone, and they bond together for support. Its amazing when I see photos of her with some of these women, she can smile and feel comforted knowing she isnt the only one. Ive been talking to a Army sargent who has been deployed online. He is a great guy. Ive never met him in person, but I am his “support buddy” and they are just as scared and unhappy about leaving there loved ones as there loved ones are about them leaving. Its a mutual feeling. All you can do is keep those in your heart and in your best prayers/wishes/thoughts. Never give up or lose hope.

Ok this isn’t coming from the best perspective but if you two are meant for each other then it’ll work. Like this girl that I’ve really gotten into and hit it off with these past few weeks has a boyfriend in the army. He was deployed I believe about 2 months after they started dating, and he was stationed in Iraq for awhile but now he lives in Hawaii. They talk about every night through skype so they not only talk they get to see each other. So if you two think that each other is worth it you’ll make it work.

thank you to everyone who answered. it really helps. i hope this works between us because i care for him more than i expected to, he feels the same as well. i think hes worth the wait. but i guess this will just be a test of our relationship to see if we really are supposed to be together. i hope i pass :)

Just stand by his side and let him know You are there for him whatever You do don’t tell anyone to help him find a job cuz then he will feel out of power as a man.! Good luck

Just stand by his side and let him know You are there for him whatever You do don’t tell anyone to help him find a job cuz then he will feel out of power as a man.! Good luck

you will pas girl, you will.

Keep busy with activities and call him as often as you can. Keeping the lines of comunication open is one of the most important thing you can do.

Keep busy with activities and call him as often as you can. Keeping the lines of comunication open is one of the most important thing you can do.

My husband is in the Marines and right now we are unable to be together just like your situation. We just got married to so its very hard like how you’re feeling too. These two quotes mean the a lot to me and I think they might help you too.

Love knows no boundaries and no distance; miles and obstacles mean absolutely nothing in the face of love. If someone truly loves you, distance is not a problem. It is just the power of making love grow each day.

Distance is not for the fearful, its for the bold for those willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. Its for those who know a good thing when they see it even if they don’t see it nearly enough