What do I do if I want to get back with my ex but my family disaprove?

It’s your life and your choices, however I think that after 3 break ups things just aren’t ment to be. I mean what on earth is going to be so much different the 4th time. I would suggest doing what you want to do, but take into account your families opinions. Regardless of what we sometimes want to hear, they do have valid points.

The first one wasnt like a real break up, we just had a big arguement but I thought i should just slip that in as an information :/

I know, but still. I meanyou still had to break ups and it still hasn’t worked out yet. I’m not saying don’t do it, I’m just saying reconsider WHY you guys broke up twice.

Judging from what you’ve explained here, it seems like the two of you have had an unstable and unhealthy relationship. So, in that sense, I can see why both of your families feel like you guys may be taking the wrong step by trying again. They just want what’s best for you, you know?

In any case, I think that you guys need to try taking things slowly. In the time you were broken up, did you guys stay friends? If you did not, I think you guys should start as friends, then work your way up. This way you guys can work on the things that caused your three breakups and, at the same time, show your family that you guys are trying to be good to each other.

If the friends thing doesn’t go good because you’re falling back to your old ways – don’t get back together. There’s no point in putting yourselves in a crummy situation again. Neither of you need that. If that happens, stay as friends or just work on moving on.

If being friends works out, give him another try. Just be sure to do what’s in your best interest. I’m sure you’ll be 18 soon – it will be your choice then anyways.

Yeah we talked about that. I told him i knew my mistakes and I want to make things work when he came back to me after our first break up, but he was scared that i wont open up to him like last time so he became ignorant of me and we both became selfish and insecure so I broke up with him the last time because he couldnt face the fact that he also made mistakes. Now he told me he realised all that and cant live without knowing there would be no ‘us’ anymore :/ And its been 2 weeks that Ive been thinking about it. And my brother told my ex to back off because it was bad last time.

Here’s what I tell people who talk about getting back together with their ex: if you broke up, it’s for a good reason. Chances are, that reason doesn’t just go away… You might be misrembering how it was with them now- it’s natural to feel sentimental and miss your ex. The times it’s happened for me where I wound up hanging out with my ex gf’s I always realized quickly what broke us up….the feelings of missing them were replaced by an ‘aha’ moment . Your family is just worried you are going to get hurt by your ex. Keep in mind, when you’re in a relationship, sometimes you are too close to the situation to see what’s really happening. People who are around you who care (your family and friends) can have a better perspective. That being said, the choice is ultimately yours who you go out with, and sometimes you have to make your own decisions even if it might be a mistake. Pay attention though, if you do make mistakes, and try not to repeat them!

Well do what u wt to do. its what ur mind wts to do not ur parent or family!

Ya don’t worry about what they say about two years ago the same thing happend to me and now we are engaged i went with my heart and i really loved him so do what you feel is right

If you’re young you do deal with it! If you’re older you’ll be able to learn on your own and do as you wish.

tell them that it’s your life and that person makes you happy. so you will whether they approve or not. that should make them change their mind when u mention your happiness.

in the end, family is usually right. but who knows. go for it but listen to your family. do what you think is right but listen to them and understand where ther coming from

Evaluate the reasons why they disapprove and see if maybe…just maybe, they’re onto something here.

Follow your heart and be true to yourself

90% of the time, your family will know whats best for you than you do. The can tell whether you’ll be truely happy with someone or not. My parents deffinately do, I found that out already.

im bou to do the same thing for the second time but i hate my parents so idc what they think but my mom called her a dog and i got mad as hell and yelled at her my dad tryed to get mad at me for yelling and i told him i aint leting them talk bad about her