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How to deal with my brother driving me crazy?

I need help, my brother is driving me crazy. He is 28 years old has only had one job when he was in high school. He went to school for 9 years cause it was too hard or changes his interest. He wants to be a writer he keeps waiting for someone to find him. Instead of him working a part time job and trying to do what he wants. My parents give him cash and a credits cards. I am 20 but anytime I need it my parents say you don’t have any or ok ok fine here you go. But my parents just hand over everything to my brother. His girlfriend left cause he was lazy fat and going nowhere. He broke his labtop and my parents talked to him but then instead of not letting him have a computer they let him get it fixed. But all I get is a stupid computer. I don’t get a new one, cause anytime he does something to his or our computer in the study or basement, he gets my cause my parents and my brother don’t care to ask me cause I don’t count. He eats so much he is loud he says I am always wrong and tries to prove me wrong he is so messy . I have told my parents but my mom just says get over it. I need to know do my parents care about me? Is my brother their favorite? Do I need to find a way to get out? Will they never care about me? I need help.

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Answer #1

Big picture - I certainly don’t think they love you any less - but it appears they may be ‘enabling’ your brother, who is an adult, to have all his needs met without a real effort on his part - a heart to heart talk (maybe by a 3rd party) would possibly help all concerned…I wish you the very best !!

Answer #2

Dear hockeygirl, I hope you believe me when I say this…it is you that they care more about. You see when we want the best for someone we show them how to be strong, independent and how to be happy without depending on others. They are giving you the valuable lessons. Why are they treating your brother so badly? You see they are setting him up to fail. He has no skills to live in the real world. They are hurting him terribly…I hope you see that what is happening isn’t favouritism for him. They have given up on your brother…perhaps your parents need some professional advice at this point. Look at yourself as being fortunate and be thankful for the way you are being treated…your brother is the one who has been let down. Sue…good luck

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