Does she like me? Or should I refrain from that state of mind?

Well im sure there is 1001 questions similar to this, but every person and circumstance is different. Basically some background, im male and I have a good freind who is female, typical ey? I’ve known her for years on and off, through friends, etc… But as of about 12 months ago, we started to hang out and at that stage I was only hoping to improve her lifestyle, she has had a history of drugs (not my thing, not once), has a great dad who unfortuanly due to a medical condidtion needs consistant care and a mother who thinks shes still 15, who kicked all her children out on there own as soon as they hit 14, and leads a very non-consiquencal lifestyle, so I took it onto myself to help her out (also she was going out with a guy, who was only taking advantage of her, and was a deadbeat, no job, no ambitions, 24/7 drugo). A bit furthur on, 3 months has passed, she had quit bongs all together, got rid of the bastard, and had a full time job (just a checkout chick, but better than nothing), and had the ambition of going back and finishing school… 10 months down hte track, fianlly applies to go back to school and starts attending… 12 months on which leads us to now, now throughout all this I tried just to be a positve influence and try to nudge her in hte right direction, which as much as id like to say it was me, she wouldnt have gotten to this stage without her own will to do so, and I have been very proud of her (starting to sound like her father here, haha) Now here is my delimer, I have always thought she was an attractive chick, shes always been a good person, despite her mistakes, but didnt think much of it till now, I dont typically associate with people of this background. And as the title gives away, im starting to feel more for her, than jsut a good freind, I think shes stunning whether shes jsut woken up and her hair is messed, to when she does dress up, she has the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen, and again I come back to past mistakes, but despite them is a very intelligent, loving and caring person. So you can already see my feelings for her, but I dont want to mess up the freindship, and I defiantly, dont want to push her away by “scaring” her, espcially if she starts to fall back into old habits, which im worried about and the main reason I worry, is because if im not her freind, I know som e of her old freinds and the only reason im not concerned at the moment is because she spends every second with me, between sleeping and her schooling. now all this leads to how she acts and possible signs.

  1. She wants to see me ever day, and I’ve worked out its been about 73 days straight,that I have seen her and spent most of the evening, hanging out, watching movies or driving while listing to music (oh thats another thing, she loves hte same music)
  2. Lately she has been showing up at my work close to closing and just waits for me to finish so we can hang out.
  3. When we are doing whatever, she is always making physical contact, trying to tickle me, jsut generally messing about harmlessly. Now with that last one, she does have a very outgoing and “flirty” personallity which makes it hard to read any potential “signs” since its kind of who she is.

I jsut keeping typing and typing, so im sure theres some mistakes, I proberly sound like some 15yo, haha… Anyway I dont know if anyone can give advice, I cant ask her straight out, im afraid of losing her as a friend, and her falling into old habits, but I dont want to miss an oppertunity, but I need to be 90% certain.. We get along great, have some fun, do a lot together, but all things that good friends can do..

I dont know what else to say, if anyone can understand what im asking please give any advise, ask any questions you need to give me advice.

It would be appriciated

Thanks

Answer #1

ok bro, your the same age as me and I went through the same sht. have to tell you it didn’t work out for me that well. we are still really good friends and hang out all the time. but let me drop something on you that you may have not thought of. I would have bet money that she liked me, we alway’s slept together(nothing sexual) and just all the same things you said. I tried about 4 times over a span of 5 years. everytime I got rejected, everytime we forgot about it , stayed friends, and moved on. noww this is the problem, after a while of seeing her date these douchbag boyfriends, and in no way is she a slt, but a cuple times she just randomly slept with a guy. And she would come to me and btch about it, how she couldn’t find a good guy, all that stuff. If you truely have feelings for her, its prety unbearable. I don’t even think you could comprehend, I put up with it for years as we just stayed good friends. Now for the most part im an emotonal rock, nothing phases me. But there is only so much of that you can put up with until you reach the breaking point. And you do not want to hit that point, I did, and it was just crazy. way out of character for me anyway. I didn’t even need to wright this much. Ok, so what it comes down to is do you think you can repress those emotions and just be friends and watch her date and screw douchbags. Which I highly do not recomend. It will fck with you. Or do you just go for it, you’d probably still be friends after. Just go for it man, I do not wish upon anyone what happend to me. and your luck might be different, she might actually like you like that.

Answer #2

I act the same way around all my friends, it’s deffinately possible that right now all she really needs is a good, stable friend, so far you’ve been the only person that has provided her with what is right for her so I can see why she would be so connected to you. It is still possible that she likes you, but everyone is different and we can’t really tell just by her actions. Maybe you should try to giive her hints that you like her. If she likes you too then she’ll take them, if not she’ll ignore them. Maybe this is a movie moment, when someone helps a friend get back on the right track and they get really close and end up in love, sounds like your her knight in shining armor. keep the friendship going and keep her happy.

Answer #3

Sorry if I wasn’t any help, but I wanted to give my opinion since it didn’t look like anyone else was.

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