Does my ex boyfriend hate me or something?

I miss him and I want him back; as a friend, boyfriend I dont care. I just want him in my life- but is it even possible?

We broke up almost a year ago. Since then he will not contact me but he will talk to me (I only send him text messages a few asking how he is but mostly chain messages. When I do he will reply with a “How are you” or “Wow you’re still up”. Every message I have sent has been answered but he never tries to contact me). He will talk to me but wont say hi when he sees me (when we run into each other in college he will not even look at me or talk to me when he’s with his friends). He will talk to me but only when he’s alone (like I said before when his friends are there he doesnt say anything, however when he’s alone I can clearly see that he wants to talk to me. He never initiates anything). During the year I’ve asked him 4 times if he wanted to hang out and all 4 times he said he was busy but maybe some other time.

Well… does he like me or hate me (hate me meaning he’s just trying to be nice to me so he doesnt hurt my feelings)? What should I do?

Answer #1

My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago. We don’t live in the same place anymore, so the only way we can talk is through msn or a social site. But since the break-up, he never talked to me. Maybe because he dumped me and he feels bad for it. So I talked to him ,I wanted to make him see that I’m alright, but he never talks to me. I wonder if he misses me or if he moved on already. (I still love him though) I don’t know what else to do. Please send something

Answer #2

My Ex boybriend is just like your Ex boyfriend. My Ex boyfriend, he dosen’t even look at me and say hi. But I love him very much. At first what I think you should tell him how much you were thinking about him and how much you loved him. Try to give him a hug and a kiss on his cheek and say that he’s the one that you really loved and the one that you always were hinking about. I’m trying to figue out what to do or what to say to my Ex boybriend.

Answer #3

He doesnt hate you. Sounds more like he’s moved on and wants you to do the same… So, time to move on already…

Answer #4

I give up then. There’s no hope I guess. I just keep remembering the time I told him I would wait for him. He got all happy and made me say it again like “are you sure you will do that”. I want to tell him how I feel but I’m afraid that will push him even further away. I have no clue what he wants. Do you think I should tell him how I feel at least since everything is completely over. Just to make me feel better?

Answer #5

Thats the point, EVERYTHING is over, so why cant you just accept that and move on? he never tries to contact me ~ he will not even look at me or talk to me when he’s with his friends) ~ During the year I’ve asked him 4 times if he wanted to hang out and all 4 times he said he was busy but maybe some other time.>>Cant you take a hint? You really need to get out of the past, and start living for today!!

Answer #6

Yes he doesnt contact me but he never did that before. He’s the type who only uses his phone if necessary and during our relationship I would never see him calling his friends or family unless they called him first.

Honestly I do get embarraced when it is him and his friends. So I only glance at him and keep walking. Usually when I glance he’s not looking. lol this one time as I was going to the restroom he was sitting by the restroom talking to a girl in his club. I walked out of the restroom and turned the corner, when I did I leaned my head back just to take another look at him. When I did I saw him do the same thing but when we noticed each other was doing it we both turned our heads away from each other.

He is entirely busy. He runs a club, works full time, and goes to school. Soo I can believe it when he says that he is busy. Plus I only asked him 4 times in 1 year. The last time he was sick. Each time he said maybe some other time though; meaning he does want to hang out but just not at that moment. Do you see why I’m confused now?

Answer #7

No. I dont. He says maybe another time because he’s a nice guy and doesnt want to tell you he’s not interested. You really gotta move on. If he was interested, not only would he have made sure another time would have definitely happened, he would have asked you out… He’s moved on. You’re clutching at things that only make sense in your head… I’m not telling you this to be mean. You’re keeping yourself unhappy by not moving on. if he still wanted to be with you then he would be… Obviously he doesnt, so now it is time to move on and stop obsessing over him… (I.e. stop texting him, stop calling him, stop looking for him everywhere you go, stop facebook stalking him if it is something you do, and throw out stuff he gave you…). Time to move on and find a new guy. Which can only happen if you let go of the old one…

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