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Do I really love him? Or Is it something else?

Okay so I have a guy best friend of 8 years…he knows me better than anyone and he’s like totally in love with me. I even told him that it’s not right because I only see him as a best friend..like a brother but he says that he doesn’t care because that doesn’t change his feelings. Anyway, I told him yesterday that I have someone I like and he started saying that he’s only being a burden on me and the guy I like..and that he should just disappear from my life and stuff like that. He said that his love is holding me down because honestly..whenever I start liking someone, I start feeling guilty and as if I’m “cheating” on my best friend…but I never get that romantic feeling when I’m with my best friend. When he told me that he’s going to disappear and stop being my best friend, I kind of snapped. I didn’t want that to happen because he is my best friend of 8 YEARS and it’s like I’m loosing half of myself. I told him that and he says that he thinks I may be in love with him..and that confused me even more. I love him but is it romantic or like a “sibling” love? I need serious help because I don’t want him to leave and never talk to me..but I hate that I always end up hurting him whenever I start liking someone…What should I do? Or what should I tell him?

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Answer #1

I’ve been with him before in the past. He dumped me. and now he wants me back. so no thanks haha. but thank you for the advice. Currently, we’ve worked it out. He plans to stay best friends with me. ^^ and you’re welcome.

Answer #2

wow this is hard…just tell him that you feel like you are cheaing on him when you like soomeone and that you do NOT want him out of your life and tha you love him too but not the way hes loves you,and that you are sorry but you guys are just better as friends…

you can also just give him a shot…but don’t do it just because you feel bad.

dating a best friend could be baad when you don’t look at them that way because then if it doesn’t work out you cant just stay with them and I will eventually end up hurting you both as friends and as more than friends

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