How can I get my boyfriend to just trust me?

Hun>i hate to tell you this, but your bf is an abuser! Not physically, but emotionally. Sounds like a control freak! Here are some signs for you to look out for> Emotional abusers expect more from their partners than they are willing to put into the relationship. The problem is no matter how much the partner gives, it will never be enough, and the abuser will expect more-because the relationship isnt about love for the abuser, its about CONTROL. The abuser says its not completely his fault. That you pushed his buttons or did something to trigger him

• Emotional abusers have huge double standards. What is ok for him them, is not ok for their partners. They are allowed to get angry-their partners are not The emotional abuser often plays pushme-pullyou. He will indicate that his partner is waning, and when she begins to start separating from him, he will become attentive, and interested again. He may even use sex as a weapon against her. Abusers are self-centered. They blame other people, and seldom take responsibility for their own actions. Abusers are self-righteous. They find ways to justify their behavior. As a result, he always focuses on HER problems, and insist SHE change to make the relationship better. Emotional abusers hate apology-and if they do apologize, they will only do it again. If you do get an apology out of an abuser it is a quick fix,not a long term solution, because they will do the same behavior over again. *Emotional abusers often grow old without growing up. They are emotionally stunted, and immature.

If you are the victim of emotional abuse, you have to wake up to the fact that this person “does not love you”, and probably never hasnt loved you for a long time, if ever! Because the truth of the matter is…someone who can be emotionally cruel, malicious, compassionless w/someone who has given their love to, is so self absorbed in self hate that he is incapable of loving himself much less anyone else. What the abuser feels is obsession, not love!

~People who love you will treat you w/respect, consideration, courtesy, honesty, and compassion. The sooner you wake up to the fact that the relationship is unhealthy, and move on, the sooner you life will improve!~

He sounds like he has ALOT of issues..insecurities for one thing. If you are going to allow someone to treat you like this…its not saying much about your self respect, and self worth! We teach people how to treat us….if you allow him to treat you as some object, and not as a human being, then thats how you will be treated!!