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How can I stop thinking about another man?

I am married with children and I love my husband and children VERY much!! I did get married at a young age and have only “been” with my husband. I recently started a new job a little over a month ago. There is this guy there that I am VERY attracted to. He has a g/f of 4 months as well, but he talks and flirts with me a lot…and I do with him too. I have done nothing more than flirting and a little emailing…but I think I would do more if ever given the opportunity…I feel horrible and do not want to cheat on my husband…I just want these feelings and thoughts to go away…All I have been able to think about for the last 3 weeks is the other man… I even had a dream about him the other night…

He did quit his job a few days ago (for other reasons) so maybe this will help, b/c I won’t be able to “see” him…I still don’t think I will be able to quit thinking about him though…any ideas to get him off of my mind??? Help?

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Answer #1

oh I was going to say to change jobs but I see he beat you to it lol. as time passes, the feelings will go away, trust me. and stop all contact with him.

Answer #2

You have to control it. If you love your husband, he loves you, and you take care of one another that should be enough. And if he’s exciting. If your husband bores you, make life exciting. Do something wild. Go to New Zealand! You should do more bonding with your family to make yourself appreciate what you have again.

Answer #3

What I think you should do., Is do something romantic with your husband and get this other guy out of your mind he has a girl friend and needs to be with her as much as you need to be with your husband. I am only 13 but I still hope you take my advise. Also please answer my question that I need advise on. Hope it all works out!!!

Answer #4

Its normal what you are experiencing, becos you married young and have only been with your husband, you are having normal thoughts about another man and wondering about something you have never done.

But you must think about the consequences if you even think about pursuing this. Good thing he no longer works with you, if you want to do the right thing then stop contacting him and dont answer his emails, if the temptation is there it will be harder. And you will pass this phase. Its a lot easier if you dont speak to him again.

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