Can I get him, back or is it too late?

his is a similar question to another ladies, however the circumstances are slightly different.

I was with my ex for 6 years, we were really close. Never had a break up, had one or two spats that would last a day and then forgotten. We were really happy together. Our sex life was varied and good.

At the beginning of this year he told me on several occasions I was the girl for him, we went on a skiing holiday after xmas, and he invited my mum and brother to his brothers wedding when we got back, around febuary.

I went through a bit of a depression for 4 months because I was having difficulty with finishing my degree.

He and I had planned to be together, but I really felt I needed to spend some time back home in london, maybe a year or so, rather than live up north right away. I always planned to come live up north when we decided we might want a family but I didn’t see anything wrong with living in london for a bit, maybe some where else after that. Live alittle ya know.

Anyway, I was so concerned about my exams that I only noticed that he was upset two weeks before we broke up.

I tried to talk to him but he continually shifted from topic, he didn’t want to move to london, but he never said it would be over if I went. And deep down I would have capitulated happily if he showed any signs of being that dead set against it.

And then there was my depression, I just couldn’t handle putting too much effort in the last 3 months and the anti depressants didn’t make me feel much like being too intimate. I shouldn’t have taken them, it was just I was constantly anxious. And I felt really bad about myself, I did pull away from his family and friends because I was embarrassed about being a failure. I think they saw me as a stuck up cow tho, but I felt okay knowing my ex understood me, or I though he did. I was just working to get threw this and then I could get back to normal.

I did spend a hell of a lot of time at uni, and not much at home with him.

Anyway,

At his brothers wedding he was acting slightly cold towards me and funny with my mum, she noticed something was wrong but I didn’t really, he had said everything was fine but there was too much going on for me that I didn’t really notice. (She told me later)

After the wedding, we went to the park, he was acting funny so I asked him, “Is iot that you want to break up”

And he said “No I want to be with you”

I did, again stress I needed to go london, I know its pathetic but I really felt I need my mum around me for a bit, slap some sense into my mental state.

Anyway, a week and a half later he phones me and ends our relationship.

It’s been 2 months since we broke up, and now he’s seeing someone else.

Is that normal? to be utterly replaced by someone, for someone to just stop feeling anything for you.

He even dumped me over the phone? Did I ruin our love and friendship so badly in three months that he didn’t care for me enough to say good bye to my face?

I tried to talk it out with him over msn chat, he was being alittle contradictory, one minuite he would say that the fact I was leaving to london “Blocked the pipe and ‘everything else’ built up behind (meaning my 4 month depression) and blew the pipe apart”. But then he’ll say , it just came to the end of the road.

The thing is when he phoned me I gave him space, I did send an e-mail to apologise but I really think I should have went to see him, and now I wonder if it could really be too late.

I’m in london now, my heads screwed on a hell of a lot more now, I’m basically all better and I’ve passed my exams but every day that goes by this break up makes less and less sense.

Because I’m here and he’s up north there no chance of having the odd meal, or night out to rekindle passion.

Is there nothing I could do to fix this?