What can I do to make my boyfriend not cum so fast? I have not had intercoure just used had and oral.
Its called premature ejaculation and you can do something about this.
PREMATURE EJACULATION
Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates ("comes") too quickly during intercourse.
It is very common in young males, but can affect males of any age.
Premature ejaculation is almost always caused by psychological concerns (ie. anxiety) rather than a physical problem.
"Performance anxiety" most often occurs with a new sexual partner. However, it is perfectly natural to be a bit nervous the first time.
Physical causes of premature ejaculation include diabetes, a tight foreskin, and disorders of the nervous system.
What can you do to prevent premature ejaculation?
Be as relaxed as possible prior to lovemaking.
The distraction technique:
When you feel yourself reaching climax, think of something non-sexual (like naming the players of your football team) - this will help take your mind off sex & reduce the chance of you climaxing too soon.
The stop-and-start technique:
When the man recognises that he is about to ejaculate, stop all sexual stimulation for ~30 seconds and then resume lovemaking. This can be repeated as often as required until you are ready to ejaculate.
The squeeze technique:
Squeezing just below the tip of the penis for 10-20 seconds also helps delay ejaculation. This technique can be repeated as often as required until you and your partner are ready for you to ejaculate.
Getting help
Premature ejaculation often settles with time as your confidence grows with your partner.
However, your GP will be able to check that there is no physical cause for premature ejaculation and can also help with counselling/advice if required.
Kiasu
I'm guessing that you're both in your teens.
First off, does he recognise the problem? Because if he does there's plenty he can do to help himself.
Really short term measure is to ask that he has a wank shortly before he comes to see you. That should slow him down a little.
On his own, he should practice getting a feel for when he's about to come, that way he can warn you to hold off for 1/2 a minute or so.
Only tongue the glans occasionally as this area is extremely sensitive.
If you're feeling confident in how you handle a penis try pressing down firmly over the urethra with three finger pads at the base of the penis for about 10 seconds stopping all other activity as soon as you feel the orgasmic pre-trembles.
On the up side, men tend to last longer as they age:-)
well the best way to keep him from cumming so fast during head is to start giving him head and every now and then pull up and start making out with him while still playing with his penis but not giving him a hand job. or you can rub his penis aronund your tummy till neither of you can stand it anymore and then go down again...:)
You can't do anyhting, it's his problem and his body. Only he can fix that.
