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My boyfriend Ex is pregnant with his baby should i stay?

Ok so I met this guy at a new job I started and we hit it off immediately and we got together he was in a 4 and a half year relationship and he claimed that he was unhappy for a long time but did no know how to leave and I understood him. He told me that I give him life that he has never felt before that I make his day brighter everyday. One day he was at work and I was sleeping and he texted me and told me that he had sumthin and I already knew it was sumthin bad so he called me and told me that she is pregnant and I really didn’t know what to do he said he doesn’t want to be with her, and she already had two kids with two different baby daddy’s, and she is only keeping the kid because he doesn’t want to be with him ita just a lot of drama she has the mind of a 16 yr old (she is 27). The bottom line is I really want to be with this guy but I constantly think about having to deal with her she tries to throw it in my face and I want to slap her there is no tlkin to her she won’t comprenhend I feel like boundaries need to be set but everytime I think of her carrying his kid it makes me sick and I know I take it out on him but like wat about the future I don’t know what to do seriously I need advice.

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Answer #1

I wish you luck, but you already know that he is a cheater. He cheated on his last girlfriend, right? He has some major growing up to do. (Plus, you don’t give his age, but he sounds like he’s in his 20s, and if so, many states would consider it a felony on his part to have sex with you.) You said, “…he claimed that he was unhappy for a long time but did no know how to leave.” BUT he still hadn’t left, even after being with you for a while. You said, “…he said he doesn’t want to be with her.” BUT he still is! I might be wrong, but I don’t think he is going to change - until he finds a new bed partner, and then the change will be from you to New Toy. My advice is to say goodbye to this ‘prince’ and get a job with a different company or site. Tell him that you are still too young to get into a relationship this intense, and if the two of you are meant to be together, then in several years time - after you both have had a chance to ‘sort things out’ and ‘mature’ - you MIGHT get back together. Take care (including 100% condom use if called for), and Good Luck!!

Answer #2

His baby is not your problem. There was plenty of things he could have done to prevent her from getting pregnant, but he didn’t. And he is a coward for cheating on her like that and expecting her to just get rid of the baby. Do you really want to be with someone like that?

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